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MrGrumpy
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12 Aug 2014, 3:49 pm

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I believe most aspies could "dress to impress" if they put their minds to it

Isn't that a bit like telling depressed people to 'get over it'?


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12 Aug 2014, 4:52 pm

MrGrumpy wrote:
Chickenbird wrote:
I believe most aspies could "dress to impress" if they put their minds to it

Isn't that a bit like telling depressed people to 'get over it'?


On the contrary, my point was, why should they?


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12 Aug 2014, 5:31 pm

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Anyone who becomes attached to a cat is, in my opinion, some kind of sucker...

..the man said.


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12 Aug 2014, 6:44 pm

Chickenbird wrote:
MrGrumpy wrote:
Chickenbird wrote:
I believe most aspies could "dress to impress" if they put their minds to it

Isn't that a bit like telling depressed people to 'get over it'?


On the contrary, my point was, why should they?

"Many people on the spectrum are intelligent enough and sensitive enough to dress well if they choose, but there is no motivation because the rewards are not forthcoming for people who are socially challenged"

I'm thinking that we are probably thinking along similar lines - we all do what we regard as necessary. But for me at least, dressing to impress has never ever figured in my calculations, and I wouldn't know how to start.


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12 Aug 2014, 6:53 pm

MrGrumpy wrote:
Chickenbird wrote:
MrGrumpy wrote:
Chickenbird wrote:
I believe most aspies could "dress to impress" if they put their minds to it

Isn't that a bit like telling depressed people to 'get over it'?


On the contrary, my point was, why should they?

"Many people on the spectrum are intelligent enough and sensitive enough to dress well if they choose, but there is no motivation because the rewards are not forthcoming for people who are socially challenged"

I'm thinking that we are probably thinking along similar lines - we all do what we regard as necessary. But for me at least, dressing to impress has never ever figured in my calculations, and I wouldn't know how to start.


Yeah, but you could do it, and I could do it, as long as we give up everything else we find rewarding and totally focus on that. Ain't gonna happen :p


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