Who is more vulnerable during sex?

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14 Aug 2014, 5:45 pm

Men or women?

I'm going with women. But I am a woman, so I only know one half of it. For a man, you're putting your most vulnerable appendage into a foreign orifice, but women are being penetrated and pounded.



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14 Aug 2014, 5:49 pm

and women can get pregnant - more on the line. (no birth control is 100%.)



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14 Aug 2014, 5:52 pm

True . . .

I ask because I was having sex with my guyfriend the other day and I became very sore. It occurred to me that I was in no position to stop him from continuing. (He did.) But I think women do put themselves in a position of vulnerability when they "open" themselves to a man. (Obviously there is also same sex activities, but I don't know about this.)



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14 Aug 2014, 5:52 pm

If a man is on top, a woman's probably more "vulnerable" during sex. The women doesn't have much control of a man's thrusts. If a man has a particularly big penis, and the woman is not lubricated, there's much pain associated with sex. Then there's the potential for infection because the man thrusts too hard, and causes irritation to the vaginal lining.

If a woman is on top, the woman has more control. Even if a man has a big and broad penis, the woman could compensate by moving hither and thither. She's less vulnerable then.

If a woman is "blowing" a man, the man is quite vulnerable, owing to the properties of ladies' teeth. Women have pretty decent control at this point.

Not as much potential damage could be done when a man "eats out" a woman.



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14 Aug 2014, 5:54 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Not as much potential damage could be done when a man "eats out" a woman.


Oh, I disagree. The clitoris could easily be bitten.



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14 Aug 2014, 5:57 pm

That's true. If the man is anatomically knowledgeable.

I didn't know precisely where the clitoris was until I was in my 20's.

Then, as I think about it, if a man's not anatomically knowledgeable, he might accidentally bite the clitoris.



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14 Aug 2014, 6:56 pm

Ann2011 wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Not as much potential damage could be done when a man "eats out" a woman.


Oh, I disagree. The clitoris could easily be bitten.


applying too much pressure around that area as well from what I hear is also painful. I've been told to be softer when going down before.

The only part of this that makes the man vulnerable in my opinion is being told if he is bad in bed or his penis is too small.


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14 Aug 2014, 7:08 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
That's true. If the man is anatomically knowledgeable.

I didn't know precisely where the clitoris was until I was in my 20's.

Then, as I think about it, if a man's not anatomically knowledgeable, he might accidentally bite the clitoris.


I'm a fan of not being bitten anywhere in that general area.


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14 Aug 2014, 8:05 pm

I don't bite ladies there. It would be like a lady biting me on my penis.



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14 Aug 2014, 8:35 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

Not as much potential damage could be done when a man "eats out" a woman.



Michael Douglas might not agree with you there.

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14 Aug 2014, 10:45 pm

Depends way too much to answer in depth. But my answer is equally vulnerable



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15 Aug 2014, 1:48 am

depends lots of men go dead after sex while recovering , would be a good time to hurt them.
also women can and do break men's penis's while doing sex. if too rough or bend wrong way and it breaks.

personally I am more vulnerable given my lack of strength and submissive nature.



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and women can get pregnant - more on the line. (no birth control is 100%.)


100% chance of getting pregnant? tell that to the tons of couples who try and fail.

it increases the odds, but not 100%

and what of the guy who doesn't want to have a kid but the woman does, then its now him who has more on the line.

as someone said it really depends on different variables



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15 Aug 2014, 3:30 am

The one who has the most feelings is the most vulnerable


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15 Aug 2014, 3:38 am

If pregnancy risk solved with pill+condom and both are sane enough to not bite some part and of course we are not talking rape here:

I'd say it's men; because men are expected to perform, to last till she reaches climax and that can very difficult sometimes; cumming too soon would piss off a horny woman and the man would feel inadequate.
I've viewed once an interview with a former male porn star and he said keeping it last like the directors require is very difficult and the team get pissed if he ejaculates before its time (apparently they do a lot of tricks too); male porn actors have all the diffculties their female peers have (faking stuff, staying in excellent shape, std risk...etc) plus withholding ejaculation.

Also the man is more vunerable if he has a particulary small penis and showing it to her woman for the first time; than a woman having a flat chest because well...her man would already know that.

Generally, women don't seem have as much pressure to "perform amazingly" and men are much easier to be pleased and much easier to make them reaching climax; this is a biological fact, that's why viagra sells.

And this pressure isn't just in men's heads but it's something women really demand it outloud; hence why you hear plenty of women prefering an "experienced man" ; you almost never hear a man saying "I want an experienced woman".



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15 Aug 2014, 4:51 am

Pills like Viagra and Cialis (however spelled) those are made to increase blood flow to the penis. Lack of blood flow to that area equals ED. But to some males, who watch porn, their performance can be enhanced if they gave up porn and masturbate very less frequently. And when they do masturbate, do it without porn. And focus on touching yourself more. Most guys in mid 20s and early 30s think it's ED but it's not, it's mental. If you still get random hardons and morning wood there's nothing wrong with you.

But yes. Men have a lot of pressure. If you ejaculate quickly, don't let it end there. You'll have to work on your head game to make her night satisfactory too. Most women don't even cum off penetration. Most don't even know what a real orgasm is before they get older. And women who masturbate frequently, never will ejaculate off penis alone. Unless you really put your back into it. Or you have a durable neck while she plays with her clit.


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