which was easier for you socially: high school or college?

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i want to know this because i'm finding it hard to make friends in high school.

For me, it was high school.

Tim

It all depends on how you come across.
Basically, if you want to make friends in high school a good basis is to follow these rules:

Don't give wrong answers when you raise your hand in class. Don't claim to be someone you're not or go out of your way to make yourself look "too" interesting (i.e. don't act delusional or anything). Also, don't interrupt people and don't ever get too emotional about anything. It's okay to express emotion in high school as long as you're not acting hyper.
Also, if some other people are talking about something you're interested in, take note of it and try to talk to them about your shared interest at some point.
Another very good way to make friends in high school is to join school-sponsored activities that catch your interest. Joining Drama club did wonders for me.

Hunh?

I were/be a complete and utter social outcast!

I didn't do very well (compared to my friends) in either place, but I had a much better time in college.

High school. More variety but a ton of dumb asses so it was a catch 22. I only took one friend away from 3 years of college but he was as close to my personality as ever. I'd rather have 1 of him then 46 dumbasses.

for me, i think it was college because in high school, i knew most of the people from either elementary or middle school, and i didn't care much for most of them. In college, it was a fresh and new start for me. and there were only two people from my high school who went to the same college as me. that didn't bother me and then i transferred and then i knew nobody. and now i have a great circle of friends.

It's really tough to say. The two experiences have been different in a lot of ways, yet similar in that I generally felt left out. In high school I felt like a big fish in a little pond, and in college I had the opposite experience. In high school I was the subject of teasing and other immature behavior, while in college I was criticized or just shrugged off because of my relative immaturity and lack of knowledge compared to many of my peers. In high school it was easier to get to know everyone and to find opportunities to socialize, while in college it was easier to find people who shared your interests. However, what I can say about both experiences is that I didn't have a regular group of friends, or make any lasting bonds in either high school or college. I have, however, found some great friends elsewhere, so all is well.

College, hands down. Most of the people in my high school were imbred, bible-beating morons.

yeah, definitely college. More people, more diversity. More diversity, higher chance for acceptance.

I never went to high school. I started homeschooling in junior high.

However,I go to college this fall,and I'm waiting to see if it's any good or not.


-SpaceCase

College, if you find people you don't like, your only stuck dealing with them for a semester. Those who you do get along with, you can arrange your classes to hag with them more.

Basically you have more control over your life in college and it allows you manage it better if you can.

I had a miserable time in the beginning though as I could control my destiny I was able to improve it.

For me, high school was actually a good experience. I was bullied in junior high and just didn't fit in at college. I am a conservative person, and all the political correctness made me want to hang it up on more than one occasion. I felt I was being punished for doing what I felt a college student was supposed to do-study and keep one's grades up. I was glad to be finished.

At my local business college, I was one of the oldest students there. I already had a Master's degree, but was looking to do something new. People wondered why I was at a business college when I already had a degree. I explained I want to take courses in a new field, legal office systems. I had the highest GPA in my group, which I don't consider to be a big deal, since all but a handful of the people I went through classes with were unmotivated or didn't have a clue. If I were first among equals, that would have been a good thing. There were times that I didn't do as well as I thought I should have. To hear that others did worse didn't make me happy. As Roger Bannister said, "It is never good for one's self-esteem to do anything half well." The last quarter, semester, etc. of college before graduation was almost the most disappointing because my GPA was always the weakest of any marking period. I just conked out due to boredom.

College.

People are slightly more mature and teachers tend to leave you alone more often.

College is easier because you have more control over most things. High school wasn't far removed from a prison routine with all the bells telling you where to go, people timing you on bathroom breaks and administrators that spent a significant portion of their time dealing with disciplinary issues.

In college, the whole system is set up to let you fail or succeed on your own. I like that, and it makes things easier. There's also a more professional environment, and it doesn't have the feeling of something that's "required" as high school did. People aren't in high school because they want to be, they're there because they have to. As a result, there's less focus on learning, and more focus on the idiotic social aspect of it, "fitting in" and all the unwritten rules...ugh I'm so glad I'm out.

College has a wider variety of interests, and there's bound to be someone else (if not a group) that share yours.

JYossarian and Kindofbluenote said pretty much what I would say. In high school I was pretty much a total outsider. But in college I made some good friends, some of which I am still in contact with today, 20 years later.