Do you lean on things when stressed?

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Had an epiphany this morning.
When I'm stressed I lean on things - walls, tables, backs of chairs etc
I realised I'm sending out the wrong message with my body language. People think I'm bored or uninterested when I'm actually anxious.
I find leaning on inanimate objects comforting.
Does anyone else do the same thing, or is it just me?

I usually stick to wall or edges of the room when anxious and will sometimes lean depending. I don't think it's the wrong body language for me, though. It sends a "Don't bother me" and that's exactly what I mean

I'm more worried about leaning at inappropriate times - such as in meetings, while talking to the boss (leaning on her desk in her office!) in class (leaning on the blackboard, on chairs, on the desk, against the wall)
I've never realised how this must have looked before.
Quite unprofessional, I imagine.
It's like I'm not aware of what my body is doing - I need to see myself doing it before I'm aware of it.

Yes, when I feel tense.

I had to fight the urge to lean on the creamer machine at the coffee shop where I worked. There was a supervisor there who would say 'if you have time to lean you have time to clean' (yes, a la Sheldon!) When my POTS got bad I'd lean because I was tachycardic but at that point I didn't care who saw what.

Even at home now, I still find myself leaning harder than necessary against the counter when doing the dishes. My feet will be further away then they should be from the sink, and I'll actually be pressing my abdomen into the counter edge by bracing my legs harder than necessary. I can't really explain it. It seems to relieve tension by creating tension (?) (or pressure?)

I sometimes lay my head on tables or chairs or any other surface in front of me. But that is due more to my being perpetually tired than it is to my being perpetually anxious (I think).

Yes I lean on things. I like the pressure. My favourite thing to lean against when stressed is the floor ... lying on the floor provides good pressure and feels secure. Unfortunately it's not usually an appropriate thing to do so I have to wait until I'm alone (if I can) or lean against something else (usually a wall, preferably in a corner so it is on two sides of me).

I hadn't either until today. Now I'm thinking back to interactions I've had and I'm doing the whole face-palm thing.

I lean on things because I will start feeling very tired if I don't.

I lean on anything no matter what. Not medical, but I have bad posture.

I lean.

I hate when people think they can read minds.
I expect them to ask instead of "reading" my body language.
NTs misread me as often as I misunderstand them.