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I think you just need to be more considerate of each other's traits, limitations, etc.
you could also apologize when he points out the unpleasant tone and explain that you don't mean it that way. that it's a misunderstanding. he is reacting as if you're doing it on purpose and that's not exactly fair. you might ask him to understand what you mean rather than the way he's reading it. just like the way you accept it when he explains he's kidding.
CathyLynn and 0_equals_true:
I appreciate these insights!
I have never really been around anyone whose way of interfacing with the world is mainly through humor-sometimes it is SOO awkward humor, too. Lowbrow. Also trying to work around the "good-natured teasing" I hate that, have trouble taking it that way. good-natured, I mean.
I know he struggles to internalize the fact that I just don't "get" a lot of his body language and oblique references. We are working on: Him: saying EXACTLY what you mean. Me: withholding judgement until I am sure I KNOW what he means.
Have others dated outside the Spectrum much?
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