Guys how important are are these qualities to you in a girl?

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I seem to have missed "Caring" off . I would place it at no. 2. But I would qualify it with: I don't really need anyone to "care" for me as such. Care about yes, but that work both ways. But physical caring, only if absolutely necessarily. Caring would be accommodating each other's quirks, understanding lifestyle/likes/dislikes. Too much overt caring, isn't really caring.

One thing I go against the grain is the "Wanting to be understood" on some deeper level, personally I think this is nonsense. Who really understands oneself, and why should someone understand you in the same way you do? I'm a strong believer in relativism. Perception, creates the impression of shared experience becuase you will have identifying factors which are in common, rather then the actually experience itself which you have no way of verifying as being the same/understood.

I also think there is an emotional flaw in wanting to be understood on this level. For one you should simply accept yourself and them, and secondly it is a self-centered red herring IMO.

A really intelligent, well-liked guy once told me: "It suprises me that you don't have a relationship. You have such a sweet radiance over you, you seem like the kind of person that would be well able to maintain and sustain a relationship".

THEN WHY HASN'T IT HAPPENED YET?

Really, Café au lait, you just have to "let it happen."

If you force it, you will not be successful--guaranteed.

When I was about your age, I used to "force it."' I got nowhere.

Yeah I'm not trying to force it, at all. I have a friend that does. She falls in love with every guy that pays attention to her and then she asks the guy out. It has never worked so far, perhaps because she comes off as desperate. I just keep living my life, doing my dances and sports, finishing my degree, seeing my family and having fun with friends. But yeah I can't deny that it makes me wonder sometimes.

I believe some guy will come into your life before you know "what's happening."

^ Oh my, now I noticed you are 10 years younger than me.

lol stop complaining; I am 32 and I see no any romantic prospect anytime soon.

Missed what boat? I don't believe in boats! I believe everybody is the captain of their own boat. Yes, a lot of boats have already sailed but not mine no siree - this boat is packed and ready to go.

I'm 33 and it pains me to hear you say that, because I want to believe there's time left to find a partner and join forces. Maybe not parent but parenting is still biologically possible. What's most important to me is having somebody to count on.

I'm 53, and I've missed some boats, travelled on others.

I haven't given up the ghost, yet!

not really sure what to say to Cafeaulait anymore. sucks to see her sad about this though

Oh lord guys I'm not unhappy or anything and I have my own life. It's not like I sit behind the computer all day whining and worrying. Last night I had a great time at salsa and zumba.

There was a really cute guy at salsa and I felt like we connected quite a bit and flirted. It was his last time there because the day after he was going to move to another (big) city. If he liked me he would have asked for my facebook or number or something like that. He didn't so I guess the feelings weren't mutual. I wonder if any guy I like will ever like me back and show it.