Blocked on facebook by family members

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Hi:

This morning I went to my facebook page and I found an interesting post and I went to put some of my own commentary into the posting. I noticed that someone said that they agreed with my sister. I know it was her because I could not see what she wrote.

I have other family members who have blocked me on facebook because

1. I am one of those people who can't seem to keep her mouth shut when I see something that bothers me.
2. I am misunderstood by them due to gossip, stigmas, stereotypes, and family arrogance
3. I did put my hands on my sister because I didn't let her get away with sassing at me and talking to me anyway she wanted.
4. My sister is also very controlling and thinks she can act superior to me because I have a "disability."
5. Every time we try and have a relationship on a cyber source she tries to force me to talk to my parents. I try to take middle grounds that we bring the worst out in each other and she goes balistic.

So she and I have basically decided not to talk to each other. It's breaking my heart today though.

It looks like your family doesn't understand you in the way that you want them to. You should distance yourself from them. Clearly your sister doesn't get it and you should avoid her.

You're better than her, don't let her bring you down.

what is your main problem? the comment in your facebook? some family members blocking you? your relationship with your sister?
for the first one, erase the comment.
about been blocked, tell them you will avoid doing the things that they hate
and about the last one, give it time, siblings can be your best friends and worst enemies but usually don't hold grudges forever.
Avoiding isnt the best option, i have done that, it end up isolating you even more from your family.

[quote="MacGyverAspie"]It looks like your family doesn't understand you in the way that you want them to. You should distance yourself from them. Clearly your sister doesn't get it and you should avoid her.

My sister and my mom both get the idea that I am schizophrenic and go around spreading things about me that are not true. In fact both of them struggle with mental illness and severe narcissism. I am guessing that my sister who loves to blame other people when she pushed their buttons, spread vicious gossip about me to my aunt and two cousins. I know spread lies about me to my parents and they believed her.

I had also lived near my aunt, uncle and two cousins and was ignored by them the entire time. They also told their daughters not to associate with me. So I got ignored and did not really understand why.

I used to be really close to one of my cousins. Then once she discovered that I had meltdowns and did not get along with my mom, she started acting differently towards me.

I have not seen my mom in nearly a decade and I am glad too.

I connected with my extended family for a little while when facebook started taking off in 2007. I had my aunt, uncle, and two cousins on there for three years. My parents have not been on good terms with them either so. Anyway they had sent us a Christmas card in late 2009 and in the card was a picture of my aunt's mother. She had passed away about 10 months before that. Yet they did not have the decency to tell any of us until Christmastime.

Being who I am I decided to write a letter to my aunt and uncle and let them have it and suggest that all of us get counseling. My favorite cousin deleted me from her list of contacts on Facebook started ignoring me.

A year and a half later we have the quake in Japan and the Tsunami in Northern CA. I contact my cousin to see if she was okay since she was out in CA going to school. She ignored me. I contacted my other cousin and my aunt. They were both very snippy to the point that I blocked the second cousin. I also told her mother that her daughters had very poor social skills and especially someone who came from a family where they were taught manners.

My aunt and the elder of the two cousins blocked me on facebook two years ago.

Hi Summer_twilight, sorry to hear about your story. How did you find out that your families actually blocked you on Facebook? I am suspecting my cousins have blocked me but I'm not really sure whether they blocked me or they have disabled their account.

Facebook? Tut.

To me, it is basically a load of S-H-I-T. There are way too many egotists on it. It helped me cyber stalk some folk I'd not seen in years, but they all have lives now and so they ain't really interested in playing catch-up with little old me. It perpetuates more feelings of loneliness when I see all 'the cool clan' getting success.

I found drawn back to it many times after erasing my accounts. God knows why. My ex is on there. I seen her like once last year. The tart was never a real girlfriend for me anyway. She scammed me - a lot (all because I "loved" her). I need to quit living in the past with all these 5 minute faces I met eons ago. They remember me, but that's about it.