Social Anxiety

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Struggling socially is par for the course for us aspies, but some of us struggle more than others.

What are your experiences with social anxiety, and what coping strategies and therapies have you tried?

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I'm in an unusual relationship right now. She says I'm just her friend because she is married. Her husband is out running around doing drugs so they barely see each other. I'm with her 7 days/week, all day long. We go to restaurants, parks, libraries, the movies, church, everywhere.

It's complicated by the fact I have feelings for her which she knows but prefers to dismiss. The social anxiety bit rears its head when I accidentally say the wrong things which strain our friendship. She's invited to her family's house for Thanksgiving but I'm apprehensive about it. I'm fine with a one on one but awkward with a whole group of people.

You can always depend on me to say the wrong things and ruin the moment. I hate it. I wish I could run the scenarios in my head and choose to ignore them because someone might get offended.

Lately I've felt pressured to fit in with the rest of society. Go out with friends (where are they lol), dates, etc... Being normal I suppose. I became obsessed with this and damn did I my anxiety sky-rocket along with a mild depression (would not even call it that, but I guess lack/loss of motivation for sure, which I had a lot of)!


I now constantly stop myself every time I become self-conscious of what I say, others think, and just kinda do it, even if it comes off slightly strange. It's better than being silent I guess and not expressing myself.

I went to a concert last week and I got all this anxiety of what others thought, etc... I loosened up after a while and went into the moshpit a couple times (:

I feel the same, Im trying hard to be "normal" or more social.. The trick is just to talk to as many people as possible, so that talking to people isn't a big deal anymore. I have social anxiety, but it's not as much as it used to be. I can actually talk to people I don't know now. Thats kinda it.. Try to talk to people when the opportunity arises. Like in class today, a chick was reading a book before the class started, I asked what she was reading, and we started talking alil. Another thing is to be interested in people, like their hobbies etc, helps for talking too. Hope that helps. Talk to randoms, ask them whatever etc.