Accepting that you don't care for someone

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Hi:
I was wanting to know how many of you try to make it work with someone due to certain circumstances such as work, family, place of worship etc. You keep thinking in your mind that you would like to give them a chance so you reach out. When you speak with the person everything comes out awkward. You also discover that you dislike their actions, the way they talk etc. Then you learn

"Hey I just don't like that person."

Do you ever experience this? How do you handle something like this?

The worst thing is when you find they really like you, it makes you afraid to reach out to people, knowing you are going to hurt them, but needing someone yourself, but nobody ever measures up.

Over the years I do seem to have developed a way of letting people know I am odd, unobtainable, but still pleasant in as far as I can be.

Its so lonely though.

I have the tendency to try and make things work with people who I have had run-ins with in past situations. I always create this illusion that I can make things better by being nice, polite, share with them about my life etc. Then it is when I see the person that I can feel the awkwardness, superficial feelings or whatever.

Today for instance I ran into one of those types of people and although my plan to connect and be friendly looked good on paper the real results were clumsy. I am learning that it's the way they do things, talk, act that really bothers me.

Yeah. I've been to youth groups/meetings/events and have met maybe one or two.....or more that I didn't particularly like-but of course, I never let this show in my behavior. Although I'm a teen myself, I've got to admit teenagers are one of the most biggest pains in the neck to socialize with! So, when I'm there talking with a bleach blonde 16 year old (and trying not to lose my train of thought while talking.) who's got attitude in her posture and a look in her eye that says 'drama starter' I can't help but get a bit...what's a good word? Put-off? Annoyed? Something along those lines. More than once when being in a conversation with a fellow teen no matter what gender, I just simply dislike them. If you haven't caught it yet, I can't stand drama and everyday teens reek of it.
But, like I said, I never let my dislike reflect in the way I treat them. Just be nice. As long as they're nice to me, I'll be nice to them. The world turns a bit more smoothly for me. The end.