Withdrawing and concerned that I'll lose my friends

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I am withdrawing into social isolation. The anxieties placed on me by this horrible semester of college and the evaluation on friday. I just can't keep up with my two friends, it's too much. When they send me a message, I find it so difficult to reply. I'm afraid that my self imposed distance will ruin this friendship.

You know what...and this is quite simplistic....

But, sometimes, a simple "Hi," plus a statement saying you're "busy" with college stuff, with suffice with most people.

You could tell them, quite plain and simple, that you need to isolate yourself for a period, that it has absolutely nothing to do with them, and that you look foreward to see them, when you are back in shape.
They´ll know, that you are not rejecting them.

By the way....the just described problem seems to be predominant among aspies.
I have lost friends, because I was silent for a long time and full of excuses instead of just saying, that I needed to isolate myself a bit.
I can understand, because I have the same insecurity, if someone suddenly withdraws, - but it has occurred quite a few times and I didn´t reject people because of it.

Since I/we have to be very careful about giving the right signals, whilst others seemingly don´t, I wonder if they have some mysterios way of communicating, that makes visible/audible signals superfluous.