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Transyl
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13 May 2015, 4:05 pm

Do you have any secrets to coping with agonizing isolation, intense insecurity, and an inability to interact with other people?



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13 May 2015, 4:08 pm

No, unfortunately.
It used to be escapism like games and philosophy and videos etc., but that doesn't do it for me anymore.
Also I'm in chronic pain and quite debilitated so that might be contributing to the lack of enjoyability in these things and definitely to my current poor state of being in general, but really I am extremely tired of this pathetic life.



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13 May 2015, 4:09 pm

Transyl wrote:
Do you have any secrets to coping with agonizing isolation, intense insecurity, and an inability to interact with other people?


Art :D



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13 May 2015, 4:16 pm

Gaming


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13 May 2015, 4:19 pm

Meditation/mindfulness


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13 May 2015, 4:40 pm

the only thing to do is keep trying to meet people. If you are not happy alone, you've got to take an initiative to meet people (even if you're bad at it)


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13 May 2015, 4:58 pm

I'm happiest when I'm not having to socialize...
Gaming, drawing, wood turning, listening to or making music, or just reading a book.


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13 May 2015, 7:01 pm

Focusing, like when I'm learning new real information (non-fiction).
When most of the garbage from my subconscious is blocked out, like stray intense emotions that cause anxiety.



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13 May 2015, 7:41 pm

My girlfriend probably helps me the most.



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13 May 2015, 8:27 pm

Music. It can take a bad emotion and somehow make it...not bad.

Also getting caught up in something. This includes social interaction, which I find very pleasant if I'm caught up in it and horrid if I'm not.


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14 May 2015, 1:27 am

diet/probiotics.


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14 May 2015, 3:05 am

I was happy for about two weeks.



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14 May 2015, 6:04 am

brain fog


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14 May 2015, 7:56 am

God, games and music.



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14 May 2015, 8:11 am

I don't

and that's why I'm kinda done and busted lmao


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14 May 2015, 8:16 am

In a sense, I'm unhappy most of the time.

I've learned to aim for what I call an "even keel" (sailing term). Not too emotional one way or another...serene.

The biggest tools I use is a sense of "acceptance." I can't change how things are, best to learn to accept the world as it is rather than insist on it changing to what I wish it would be. Another tool is to look at others and realize that most all of them are also unhappy and that few ever are "happy." Indeed, there are a lot of people (NTs) who are worse off than I am and it makes me realize that I'm not as bad off as I feel most of the time. That helps.