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zryan9021
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22 May 2015, 10:27 pm

I seem to have a difficult time connecting with other guys sexually. I don't like anal sex of any kind, and nothing about it turns me on at all. Not even in porn. I really get turned on by having my penis and my nuts played with through my jeans, and also hand jobs and blow jobs. I really enjoy when a guy pays special attention to carefully stimulating my frenulum and plays with my testes/scrotum. Especially tugging on my scrotum. I like to reciprocate this too. I also get turned on when a guy refers to my ejaculating as "squirting."

I feel sort of ashamed and I'm not sure I really should. I just have this certain way I like to be stimulated and to engage with other guys, but I feel like they'll just think I am really weird or creepy or something :-( Does any of this sound crazy to you? Can you relate to feeling embarrassed or ashamed of your own desires??



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22 May 2015, 10:38 pm

I'm not a gay man, but nothing you desire hurts anyone so I see no reason to feel ashamed of it.


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22 May 2015, 11:06 pm

Thanks, that does make me feel better. My name is Ryan btw, and I'm 26. I am NT but I have recently recognized strong similarities I share with those in the AS. I have always felt differently and it makes so much sense after discovering this site. I hope I wasn't too graphic by the way, I apologize if it was!



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23 May 2015, 1:25 am

Actually maybe this should be posted in the adult forum. My first time posting wasn't sure where to post.



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23 May 2015, 7:46 am

Before it's moved to the adult, I'd like to contribute as I never visit the adult.

I think pretty much most people have very particular ways in which they are turned on. They simply don't talk about them because they feel embarrassed or they feel others are offended. So I think your being turned on by what you described in the OP sounds absolutely normal. If someone doesn't happen to share your taste, then he might find it boring/weird or whatever, but it's not that you are wrong or weird. I'm actually glad that you described what you like very explicitly because I could understand what you mean very well.

You might want to do some more research on autism if you think you could possibly have it. If you become more sure about it, you could seek a diagnosis (if you need it for whatever reason).



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27 May 2015, 4:19 am

Ryan, there's absolutely nothing wrong with your desires and not liking anal. Plenty guys will be quite happy with that.


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28 May 2015, 1:32 am

zryan9021 wrote:
I feel sort of ashamed and I'm not sure I really should.


You shouldn't. You like what you like and that's that. Besides, your likes/dislikes aren't exactly super rare kinks or anything. I'm sure you can find a partner willing to accommodate them.


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11 Jun 2015, 7:53 pm

zryan9021 wrote:
I seem to have a difficult time connecting with other guys sexually. I don't like anal sex of any kind, and nothing about it turns me on at all. Not even in porn. I really get turned on by having my penis and my nuts played with through my jeans, and also hand jobs and blow jobs. I really enjoy when a guy pays special attention to carefully stimulating my frenulum and plays with my testes/scrotum. Especially tugging on my scrotum. I like to reciprocate this too. I also get turned on when a guy refers to my ejaculating as "squirting."

I feel sort of ashamed and I'm not sure I really should. I just have this certain way I like to be stimulated and to engage with other guys, but I feel like they'll just think I am really weird or creepy or something :-( Does any of this sound crazy to you? Can you relate to feeling embarrassed or ashamed of your own desires??


Stop caring how others might view what you enjoy.
Accept what you enjoy and find someone who will accommodate it.



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03 Apr 2024, 4:04 am

I'm a gay man but feel the same way. It's because people rarely ever talk about sex seriously and always resort to joking about it. It used to be common to do so in school and it seems to be one of the schoolyard "banter" that passes into adulthood.

However, I never have felt comfortable about discussing it with anyone, mainly because of the way that it doesn't feel right to even hear myself talking about it. Maybe its an autistic thing for myself?

It simply feels weird and out of place particularly talking "dirty" also.