I cant get a real relationship...

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who else has this issue....you're not just something to be f***d you want to be a friend and spend time with said person you're f***ing. Grr I've had one night stands and short term relationships...but that's not what I want, I'd want someone to commit to IDK who would want to help support a person in a relationship, due to being less lonely and who just wants to savor their time alone? God I just want someone who wants me...IDK if its an open relationship or what would just be nice to have someone I guess. I try to ignore it and still enjoy time with friends..but I am not glad to be single per say, that is just how it is....not sure where to find a guy who would want someone like me.

This is my version of the I am single and don't like it thread.

I think a good strategy to avoid "one-night-standers" and other gamblers is to refuse them sex until you know them better. Works for both genders. It works because these people are eager to "score", and if they don't see a quick ending, they will try with somebody else.

You are on the right path, your inbox on wp will be flooded by PMs and you'll pick a wannabe boyfriend who happens to be geographically close to you.

I hereby randomly declare that I am now Sweetleaf's boy-friend™ & fiancé™ ! Oups, ahem, I mean... Aspies... I am your father. Wait, not that one either, but if I were to make a serious post...:

Now that's just ridiculous. You can definitely get a relationship™ if you wanted. Just work on yourself if you still think for some reason that you cannot get one (I am assuming you mean a long-term™ relationship™ rather than anything short-term based on your thread-post). Make yourself amazingly attractive enough that a guy should actually want to keep you & stay true & loyal to you (lest he miss out on a lady who has made herself a real gem).

I also think that it might be easier with older men rather than younger guys, considering that more experience gives individuals a better idea of what they actually want, and I know that, from my own ridiculously high sex-drive, now that I'm willing™ to "exclusively have just one lady"™ at this point in my life, I have "solved the dilemna"™ of wanting to do every pretty girl I see and keeping a "girl-friend"™ who wants an exclusive-relationship™ happy™ via having her simply cos-play as all of those pretty girls so that it's like I'm having sex with lots of different girls even though it's really the same one girl who gets™ to have me all to herself (cos-play wigs are like one of the bestest-ever inventions) !

Anyway, yeah, like that rdos person said, you go out on dates first to get to know the person, and the NT-rituals seem to require that sex not be done on the first date but only after like the third or something (although different types of relationships exist for different folks with different... strokes™... ).

I am actually not really opposed to the idea of having the OP as my GF since I think we could have a lot of frequently really great sex together while she cos-plays to take on the appearances of all of the hottest-looking video-game/animé-characters while I do her but she won't talk to me or respond to my posts now that after I had made past responses about Liberals™ (she considers herself to be one) when I probably should have been referring to Statists™ (i.e.: people who vote or pay taxes & think that either activity does anything to change a country for the better when both only perpetuate a fiendishly autocratic-system of despotism). Plus she also made fun of our Saviour/Messiah when I was actually being serious about Him having returned as Terence-Christ ! D= Now my feelings are all hurt, OMG, I want a divorce ! D=

(Okay, the last bit was pretend™-drama, and should not be taken seriously, because it's akin to controlling two characters on a multi-player on-line MMORPG, who are married, then making the wife character say in public before a HUGE crowd... "Why are you talking to her ? You must be cheating on me!! I WANT A DIVORCE !" followed by the husband-character going something like...: " " then "..................." and it should not be taken seriously since I am not actually going through any kind of emotional break-down™ [that was just pretend for fun])

P.S.: I am now going to fap™ OP's avatar-icon.

I get the whole wanting a partner in crime thing. I want that for myself sometime.

But, in the meantime.. well, there are always hookups if I feel like it. And I have better friends in my life than I could possibly ask for. And I'm a-okay with my own company.. sometimes solitude is golden - sometimes literally solo at home or outside on my own, but also solo as in I don't have to answer to anyone else' needs/wants/schedule and can do whatever I want with my free time like hop in my car and drive ~120kms to the beach to go kiteboarding with all the kiters that happen to be there that day.

Between myself, my very good friends, fun stuff I enjoy, and one night stands if/when I feel like it I do have a pretty fulfilled life.. but I agree that it'd be ideal to wrap a few of those things all up together in a relationship sometime. Eventually.. but yeah, in the meantime, just make the most of life the best you can.

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

L'orthographe que tu recherches est: « connoisseur » ?

Francais est mon langue tertiaire. Je comprends toi. Mais, pourquoi ecrives-tu complètement en francais, when you can just write in English?

Additionally may I ask if google helped you with the translation because the grammar seems weird?

Je n'ai pas besoin de Google-Traductrice si je voudrais communiquer en français (normalement).

Je me demande si l'OP peut parler en Français.

Hmm, this is new, everything else I've read of yours comes off as nonchalant about relationships, what changed?

That being said if you carry that nonchalant attitude in real life when dealing with most males they'll use that as lack of interest and yeah, just use your body and be done. It's disgusting, but most people are still animals at their core.

It's wrong planet, you probably got a reply within half an hour of your initial post here. That being said there are more desperate horny males on this site than there are in the entire middle east (no offense to Boo), which means you'll be looking at more of the same male behavior you're trying to get away from. My suggestion to you is actually put some thought into what you want in a partner, it doesn't have to be a long list, but a few core values you want in a relationship and weed out potential suitors that don't fit the bill immediately. Also, be proactive, look for males you're interested in, if it's in real life try striking up a conversation, if it's here send them a PM about a post they made.

Lastly, being autistic, don't believe what a male says or you'll get used, look at their behavior. If they say they'll call, don't believe they will, but if they do actually call make a note of it. If they say they'll do x,y, and z, don't believe they will but if they do note that as well. If their words match their actions then you can start believing what they say, but that could take weeks or months to figure out. Good luck.