When a girl wants to wait before sex?

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This question is for guys, Would you be okay with it if a girl tells you that she wants to keep your first few interactions outside your homes ,go on real dates out in public as you get one another before sex. Would you be okay with this if if you are genuinely interested in her?

I thought that was standard protocol. But yeah I would be perfectly fine with that. I'm actually hoping that I find myself in that position.

I would strongly prefer that, actually

Of course!

You have to get to know each other first before you make love.

Otherwise, it's not really making love.

Can queer females answer too? For me, yes that sounds totally fine. That's generally how it goes, without any need to say it out loud. If my date said up front that she wanted to have a few dates outside of the home, this I would find a little strange as I'd feel she was making assumptions about me wanting to jump into bed or something (and also making assumptions that there would be more than one date). But apart from the weirdness of saying it, it's fine.

Never, in my life, would I EVER expect to go to bed with someone before having even one date!

Actually, this is how i feel it *should* be done, and it is my genuine proposal before the girl gets a chance to make it.
(and yes, i'm a guy)

Why is this even a question? Only a misogynist who only sees girls as tools for sex would not at least be okay with it.

Not necessarily. There is nothing wrong with someone just wanting to have casual sex (male or female). Just as long as they're not dishonest about their intentions.

I'm sort of on the asexuality spectrum & only OK with having sex in a serious relationship so I'd be totally fine with the waiting for sex part but I'd feel alittle uneasy about the outside the home part cuz I'm very introverted. I rather get to know people in private or small group settings & most everything I like doing is inside the home. I'd worry that I'd come off poorly due to not having one on one setting & not enjoying myself or coming up with ideas on things to do. I'd still give it a shot thou.

I don't have any issue with waiting. But where I will have a problem (and that has happened in my experience):

Still have an ex lurking in the background and assume that I am fine dating her exclusively and Noone else. Eventually I found out the two were still sleeping with each other. Should I still be fine with dating someone exclusively while she is deceptive and dishonest like that? Especially after telling me it was over between the two when we first started dating?

No, but that has nothing to do with what I was saying.

Regarding the casual sex thing, IMO that contradicts the being genuinely interested clause unless you are a misogynist who only views women as tools for sex.

I can't give you an opinion from the point of view of a guy but as girl who would much rather wait a while before having sex with someone I can tell you that I've had bad experiences with people who don't want to wait.
I personally think that a first date with someone should be just that, a date. Going out to the movies or to dinner or a picnic, that way you're not under any obligation at the end of that date, and when things progress from there you will likely find that the person will know you well enough to understand that you wouldn't want to have sex at the very start of a relationship.
Saying outright that you want to wait to have sex may seem odd or presumptuous, so I would suggest just getting to know a person without bringing it up, even if you don't get their cues, they will get yours (or at least the vibe that you are giving off).
Hope that helps.

Absolutely wait. I have always wanted to know a woman fairly well before having sex. And if a man isn't willing to act like a gentleman and romance his lady, in my opinion he's no man at all.

I also think performing the fastcosby is wrong.

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