Why do girls stop talking to me on Tinder? Wtf?!

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I lol'd. The sad thing is I would probably make similar "mistakes" too.
I'm still not sure if you're just kidding or serious.

Anyway, my view (with very limited capacities to understand social):
Girl 1: I noticed =) smiley, which seems like good sign for just "hey".
So you brought up Pokemon, which is often considered kids' stuff in popular worldview. But OK, go with it.
You said Charizard is your fave, which is normal for many adults, it's a completely stereotypical choice of people who were kinds in the 90s.
She probably thought you're joking around, mentioning Pokemon.
So she maybe wanted to push the conversation back into hookup territory with her provacative response. I don't think it's standard behavior to mention private parts to a stranger this quickly, or she wanted to say she's looking for sex. Maybe she was already getting pissed off with you just for mentioning Pokemon, that's another explanation for this response, maybe she didn't even intend to reply after this.
But then you "went mad" by taking her seriously and talking self-centered "nerd" stats, I'm pretty sure that would have killed the conversation if the other stuff hasn't already. I'm not sure how to NT-gracefully continue the conversation from there.
If she had said something positive about shellder if she was a fan maybe she would have felt bad for you saying it's a crap poke... but I'm pretty sure she didn't care about it anyways.

Girl 2: Maybe she was turned off by you wanting to scream...... Maybe she expected you to name some well-known bands' names... I dunno, this doesn't sound like a well-known genre and kinda made up lol, maybe she thought there wasn't any common ground or you're messing with her. Or she thought the screaming part was weird. Definitely wouldn't have mentioned the screaming like that. Maybe the best thing to respond to "music music music" is "[insert genre type X][insert genre type X][insert genre type X] "... who knows...

Girl 3: Is it normal to want to meet up this fast? It's kinda creepy IMO.
If this is acceptable, don't mention McD as a dating location. I know I too am prone to think McD first thing when thinking about restaurants, but well, there are much better suggestions you can make like... meet at a public park or cafe.
"Sure let me take you to mcdonalds and buy you a happy meal. " wording is just completely ridiculous lol, happy meals are meant for kids and the wording... I hope somebody else will explain this cause I don't have the ability to describe how this sounds.

I think these girls were interested but they didn't like what you said.
IMO lot of talk is about how you present the words, like you can maybe get into Pokemon if you don't smash it at someone instantly but rather subtly inject it into the conversation... but it's not a "socially appropriate" thing to just casually talk about with strangers I think.

Did you seriously reply to them like that, or are you just messin' with us?

Hey, you'll take the toy! I swear!

You trolled them all, trolling is in your blood .

My take on what you did wrong:

Girl 1. Insulted her taste/intelligence by telling her why you think her fave Pokemon is stupid.

Girl 2. Overkill. A better response would've been "Bluegrass. You?".

Girl 3. Too forward, too fast. Maybe exchange a few more texts, establish a rapport before you suggest meeting up.

Just because you've exchanged one or two messages doesn't mean the girl 100% wants to hook up with you. You might also wanna lose the desperation.

One time, on an erotic site, a chat went something like this:

Her: Hey babe, wanna roleplay?
Me: Yes, why not.
Her: You lead.
Me: I choose the mage class
Her: ....
Me: (Casting Fireball spell)
Her: What the hell is that?
Me: Me did 15 points damage to you!
Her: f**k OFF YOU NUT!

One time, on an erotic site, a chat went something like this:

Her: Hey babe, wanna roleplay?
Me: Yes, why not.
Her: You lead.
Me: I choose the mage class
Her: ....
Me: (Casting Fireball spell)
Her: What the hell is that?
Me: Me did 15 points damage to you!
Her: f**k OFF YOU NUT!

She likely had something very different in mind when you asked her if she wanted to "role play".

What a mage, you made her disappear!

As you see some guys say stuff like "women are evil, they hate me, they ditch me for no reason, etc etc" but it's their own fault in the end.

Not always. A lot of people on free dating sites don't actually want to date.

A month ago, I decided to get Tinder because everyone else my age was using it and was like what the heck i'll give it a go.

So anyways I got some matches from pretty girls and proceeded to message them but they all ghosted me, I don't know why. It's very frustrating, what the heck am I possibly doing wrong? I really have no idea what i'm saying that would be considered bad.

Here I will give you 3 conversations I had with women on this app.


Girl #1

Me: Hey

Her: Hi =)

Me: What's your favorite pokemon? Mine is Charizard!

Her: Shellder because it reminds me of my vagina

Me: How could you like Shellder? It's base stats are crap, it's move set is crap, half of the pokemon in the OU tier is super effective against it.


She never replied back...



Girl #2.

She messaged me first... My bio says music music music in it.


Her: What kind of music music music do you like?

Me: I have a passion for bluegrass screamo. Basically it's bluegrass but instead of singing, you're screaming. I want to start my own bluegrass screamo band. What about you?


She never replied back either...





Girl #3.

Her: Hey you are cute

Me: Thanks, you too.

Her: I know this is sudden but do you want to hangout?

Me: Sure let me take you to mcdonalds and buy you a happy meal.


She never replied back...



Wtf?! Why do women hate me so much ='( All I want is love and affection but girls have to hate me for whatever reason.

What am I possibly doing wrong?