How to "break up" with your best friend?

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So I have known this guy for like 2+ years and we have been best friends the whole time, but now I realize he is kinda a dick and a ass and I have no desire to talk to him anymore. So how do I go about telling him that I don't want to be friends anymore without being a dick?

I have been somewhat feeling like this for awhile but what really set it off was he asked me if I wanted to go with some people to main event to bowl and I said no cause I don't like groups of people and he thought I was lying for some reason and told me not to make stupid excuses and he will keep that in mind anytime we do anything or I want a girlfriend or something (he wasn't saying keep it in mind nicely, he was saying it like I was lying) so that kinda pissed me off and he is just generally self centered and intolerant. Like he knows I have aspergers but he was still a douche about it.

If he's nt I would do it the nt way and just make excuses when he wants to hang out (he's already accusing you of that anyway). It's much less awkward then if you do bump into him than if you have told him he's a dick.

Does it really bother you so much to eat breakfast with him?

In my opinion you shouldn't "break up" with him in "I don't want to have anyting in common with you anymore" way.

It will be enough for you to distance yourself from him. Make him just a friend instead of best friend and after a while you might become just acquaintances. You do it by limiting your contact with him to the places and activities you can't avoid him. When he invites you to bowling or whatever you say "I don't feel like going.", "I am busy.", "Bowling isn't my thing." etc.

You might also have a serious talk with him to fix your relationship but don't pop up with the Asperger thing. Just tell him you are an introvert and groups of people and loud envirioments make you really tired and uncomfortable but you are OK seeing him in calmer settings. It is possible he is a dick because he thinks you are making up excuses because you don't want to see him and his friends. He is missunderstanding and taking things personally. Making him know you have Asperger is not enough of an explanation because he has no idea how it feels like and he goes with it as he could go with "I have blue eyes" kind of thing. Information, not explanation.



You might consider him a "dick" now but sometime in the future you might be happy you know him, especially since it is harder to get friends once you are out of school. At a point of time you migth actually realize he is the only one who can help you in social world. You will want a girlfriend or a more decent friend and then he is going to provide you opportunities to met new people and will guide you in new situations. He might also be usefull in job seeking because he will know a lot of working people.