Would you let yourself fall for someone who has no picture?

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For me, I wouldn't let myself fall for anyone online in the first place.

Moreover, if I have no idea what the person is look like, I would not let myself have some feelings for them…

Is this just me?

I have twice before, but I never would again.

ETA: I wasn't looking for anything, of course. It was actually much easier to fall for them than it ever would be for somebody IRL, imo. Mostly because it's much easier to envision somebody online as who you want them to be as opposed to who they are, which is already done often enough in real life relationships. I would have not even liked them as people if I had met them in real life let alone as something more, so it was more fantasy than anything.

Last edited by Logston on 27 Oct 2015, 4:47 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Honestly, I don't see how anyone would fall for someone who had no photos up of themselves. Physical attraction is just as important as emotional/psychological attraction, so it's hard to imagine anyone being interested in someone whose appearance they don't know.

I personally don't get romantically involved with people online unless they live near me, in which case the prospect of a relationship is open, but I'd have to meet up with them in real life before anything can come to fruition.

In general though, I won't let myself catch feelings for someone unless I'm fairly certain they like me back. I've had a rough past of unrequited love, so I guess a few barriers have formed.

I was in love with a guy that I seen no picture of.

He was a bit stalkerish and wanted to text with me all the time so eventually he become a part of my daily life.

All look of him I had at first was his character in a mmogame we met in, totally different than the real him, even hair color was different. I seen his photo long after I begun to like him. And it made no real difference for me. He was not a model but he was not ugly either.

I am not someone who looks at outer beauty anyway. Even with people I know in real life I found out that even if someone seems repulsive at first I just stop seeing it after like 30 secs of talk. I also dont remember someone is ugly till I see him (and it stays like this for about 30 secs and the "ugliness" disapears). Living with prosopagnosia...

Of course, I have my "type" I get attracted to just from sight but I don't rely on it too much because I know that intelectual compatibility is what is really important. And sexual compatibility of course, but its also is not something you can quess it just from look. Someone might be beautiful but feel like a part of furniture when you actually touch and someone might seem borderline ugly but give you "electricity shocks" with even slighest tough. And for people sexually compatible how I see the "electricity" depends on intelectual compatibility - if I intelectually like someone: it is pleasant, if I can't tune in his way of thinking: it feels repulsive. So intelectual compatibility is the real door to my heart. Sexual compatibility only makes difference whatever someone intelectually compatible stays a "friend" or becomes a "potential partner". Before we touch I might have crush/love someone who ends up being gualified to be just a "friend", then the crush/love feeling disapears and friendship stays.

I know I'm not someone who looks at outer beauty definitely..But still I need to check if he's real or not.

Probably not. First, I wouldn't even consider falling for somebody I've only texted online. I definitely need to see them IRL in order for that to happen. OTOH, I can fall for somebody without knowing anything about her, but I do need to see her IRL.

Yeah, OTOH, I could have some romantic feelings for somebody inevitably who I don't know well enough..
but I will force myself to stop from actually falling for him.

I do, but it doesn't mean anything. I would never contact the person about this matter.
It's like what popular singers are to teenagers.

..I failed to understand this lines..more elaborate pls..

I admire these persons from afar and would never go further than that.

Especially teenage girls often love some member of a boy band and they wish they could be his girlfriend, they talk about him all the time. But it's more of an admiration from afar. They know that this is never going to actually happen.

/e: Needed to put a line break there. That looked weird...

A picture doesn't always mean that is the real person. Watch the show "Catfish" and you'll see the people on there usually use other people's photos from Facebook and even that person's friends. It's creepy. The truth can only be had by meeting the person personally.

That's the fact..that's why I prefer real life relationship.

I really care about my Aspie friend and I still haven't seen a picture of him (except I might have found one on my own, but I'm not sure). The thing is he says he doesn't like taking pictures and I've come to accept that even though it is hard not being able to put a face to someone I've talked to for over a year and a half. He swears he doesn't have a third nipple or an extra eye in the middle of his forehead so I guess I'll take his word on that. He'll show me a picture when he's ready. The other part of it is that he could send me a picture that isn't really him and I wouldn't know the difference so I'm glad he didn't do that. But like Miss D said above that you can't be sure if they are even a guy and I wondered this too so my Aspie friend sent me a text of his voice and said something that only we would know and he definitely sounded like a guy with a really cute accent. I sent my voice too. That was nice.

But, yes, I could and have fallen for my Aspie friend except I try to keep the reigns pulled in some in case I never get to meet him.

My (now) husband met with me with no picture published. Just a fluke Yahoo add, and a shared love of Dennis Leary.

Yeah I may imagine or fantasize someone as someone else online..

I definitely need to meet him before anything can ever happen as well.

lol..you're lucky!

Hey, Miss Angela..like MjrMajorMajor's case, your Aspie friend is possibly real.
Many people don't like to show their face for many different reasons.