Do you care that you're not "normal"?

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Ok, so put aside all your arguments about what "normal" actually is or whether or not it even exists.

Let's say that "normal" is the "social norm" in a very general sense.

Do you care that you don't fit the idea of "normal"?

I don't, but only since I've discovered that there's a reason I am the way I am.

When I hadn't yet been diagnosed I just thought that I was strange and I was annoyed that I couldn't fit in.

But it all makes sense now and I find myself caring a hell of a lot less.

For a long time I have lived a life summed up by this quote from the film "Repo Man"

"Look at 'em, ordinary people, I hate 'em."

I'm not really interested in fitting in , I see a lot of the activities of nt's to be at best pointless (but if it keeps them happy I'm not against it) and I'm perfectly happy with doing the things I enjoy and the things Im interested in so no I dont mind.

Its hard being ahead of the curve sometimes though

i dont care about what is the "norm"... just be "real"

No, I don't. People might find me weird, abnormal and I've even been called a lunatic on some occasions, but I like who I am.

Nope. People enjoy their parties; I enjoy my forest, we’re all happy, so it’s cool.

I only get perturbed when people try and force me to like their parties.

It has always been this way for me. (I was only diagnosed a few months ago.)

Hmmm, so at this point from the above results, 8 out of 10 of us don't care and 2 out of 10 only care sometimes.

I used to, but not anymore.
Other people seem to care that I'm not normal more than I do

No, not a bit, really. I've met 'normal' people, and I can't fathom the things they find important.

Other people just like to have opinions on things that have absolutely nothing to do with them.

Personally I tend to think it's a little bit of escapism on their part from their own lives.

It's a cliche, but it's true, people like to make themselves feel better by convincing themselves that everyone around them is worse.

I am generally very twitchy and panic easily. It is that aspect I would like to do without. Otherwise I am satisfied with the way I am as far as my mental state is concerned.
There are many other aspects on myself I would like to improve such as being a bit taller and a bit better looking but none of them have anything to do with autism.

That's true. I wish I'd known about Aspergers in high school. It wouldn't have changed anything but it would have made me feel a bit better about it

Yeah same here.

Although I'm also finding that despite how many messed up situations undiagnosed aspergers has caused me in the past, I take solice in the fact that it all makes sense now when I look back.

That was the best part about being diagnosed for me, I looked back on my life and suddenly everything made perfect sense.

It did for me as well, everything seemed a lot clearer when I found out about it
Although I can now remember a lot of situations before I knew, where at the time it seemed perfectly normal to me, but I now realise I must have seemed very 'abnormal' to everyone else.
It also helps in that I think things through more when someone's talking to me (if I get the chance) so I'm more likely to work out if they mean something literally or not. Whereas before, I just assumed I was understanding things sometimes when now I know I wasn't

I'm feel the exact same way! Now that I know why I'm Differant I can Actually relax And be who I really am.

No. In fact, I am aggressively outspoken in my contempt for it. There are three types of people in this world: psychotic, neurotic, and just plain nuts. I've found this to be true. I've found those who posture as "normal" to be disturbed, and most people I've known who actually warrent the title seem quite at ease with an aspie.

I don't care.

Women my age enjoy their expensive fitted clothes, pop music and long hair.

I enjoy my leather, Punk music/hair and my food.

Why do I want to be like everybody my age who happens to share my gender?

I'd hate to be like everybody else, and I wouldn't do so, if I was payed $1 Million Dollars. Of coure, if I had that much money, I could do what I wanted, anyways, but that's beyond the point.