FINALLY found an age-appropriate girl!! But difficulties...

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I'm 16, and in the 11th grade, and I now have a crush on a 17 year old girl who is in the 11th grade... problem is, her religious parents won't let her talk to boys..... although, I don't think she follows that rule, because when I say "Hi, how are you?" to her, she always responds with, "I'm good, how are you," and talks a little bit, but if I try talking more than a little bit she ends up avoiding me, like when I asked if I could play catch with her and her friend, and she pretended she was leaving the Istanbul center (but she actually stayed for hours), and when she made up the lame excuse that she can't talk to me because im a boy and shes religious, just because i made an awkward joke about my beard, after talking to her friend for awhile..... what should I do? should I just continue to talk to her only a little bit, suppress my feelings for her and wait until we're in college and she actually starts courting, or try to fight my awkwardness as best i can? even if i did the latter, im usually not even sure what im doing wrong..... also, i rarely see her, since we go to different schools.... i only see her at my mosque/turkish cultural center, so distance is another issue...what should I do?

It seems like she isn't interested.

dang it, just when i was getting over my inappropriate attractions... so, earthling, are you saying i dont have a chance with her?

Leave her be. Either she is telling the truth and speaking to her will get you in trouble, or she made up an excuse to discourage you and speaking to her will get you in trouble.

Yeah, i hate to say it but this girl is a lost cause for you.

It is good that you found someone age-appropriate, don't misunderstand that, but this specific one doesn't want you, for reasons that are her own.

Likewise to what the others have said.

Unfortunate but it's good you get out before you get too deep into it. Hopefully your feelings arne't too strong yet so you can get over her quick.

OP, I'd like to change the topic to your difficulty meeting people your age.

What are your options again?

You said you go to a special school and there's few females and the ones that are there you're not attracted to, along with there being children in your neighborhood but they're all too young.

Do you have any hobbies/interests that could, at any point, get you outside of the house and out and about?

Sports, can find a good spot at the park, music, can play for tips if you really wanted. Also, look into clubs/groups related to your hobbies. You've got your religilous centre for your religion, anything else?

I don't have a crush on that girl anymore.... however, I now have a crush on my cousin Serra (since my dad's side of the family is okay with that for religious reasons).... she's 14, and lives in Turkey, and she added me back on Instagram...

MC, you are at the stage of your life when you need to focus on earning the grades necessary to graduate from high school. A high school diploma is one of the most important documents you will ever own. It is at least as important as a driver's license in the sense that it shows that you have the discipline to stick with a difficult program to the very end, and that you are a responsible adult.

Anything that threatens to take your attention away from earning your diploma is a threat to your future!

Alcohol, crime, drugs, gangs, and girls are the greatest threats to a young man's future, because they will all draw his attention away from his studies and ruin his chances for a decent job with decent pay.

No, I am not saying that girls are evil! I am saying that if you let yourself be distracted from your studies, you won't graduate; and that if you don't graduate, you won't get a good job; and that if you don't get a good job, you will not be able to support a wife, a family, or even yourself.

Do you want that? Do you want someone else marrying the girl of your dreams because you can't even get a job to support her? Do you want another man raising your children as his because the only jobs you can get pay minimum wage, or less? Do you want to spend the rest of your life working shite jobs that no one else wants, simply because your lack of an education won't let you get anything better?

Forget about girls until you get that diploma!

Believe me, if you think that I'm being mean to you about this, you just try getting any respect from your boss when he has a college degree and you have nothing.

Save your pennies and get yourself an escort for the evening. Infact, half hour would probably be more than enough.
16 is a tricky age and mallesting your cousin isn't gonna do you much good.
Relax abit, attend afew under 18 discos (do they still have them?),hone your chat up skills and be patient.
Give it a couple of years and then you can get all incestious

The most important thing is for MC to get back to REGULAR CLASSES.

It's a miracle he has an 80's average in that environment.

No girls at school? PERFECT!

Focus on your studies, graduate, enroll in college, focus on your studies, graduate, and get a job.

THEN you can concern yourself with attracting a mate. Trust me, the lack of maturity in girls your age (or younger) would not make for a fulfilling relationship, and older women would feel the same about you.

I think you should read every word Fnord has typed in this thread, twice if necessary. And then, think about it.