can anybody help me?

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im must be overloading some of you with post's, but im new. give me a break. anyways.

i can be prone to snapping, horribly, and although its rare, its very serious when it happens. i nearly killed someone last year, and i need help.im desperate here!

I have this problem, and the only thing I have found that helps is to COMPLETELY remove myself from whatever situation is provoking me. This includes mentally - I have to find some other distraction for my mind. This can be difficult with the Aspie tendency to never want to leave anything unfinished, but I've learned to tell when I cannot take any more, and remove myself then, BEFORE I blow up.

i have to be able to control my environment to completely prevent myself from snapping

actually im starting to snap right now, my girlfriend is trying to have me help her write a 10 page paper due wednesday and everything that comes out of her mouth is i cant i cant i cant-

theres a reason that i didnt go to college in the 1st place - but still the issues are being forced onto me

she procrastinates on purpose and then im supposed to do something about it like i can even focus on reading any part of either of the articles that she is writing the paper on...

im trying... taking the time to type this has helped me a little bit...

Maybe you need to let her know how important it is for you to take time out when you get upset. Tell her that you know she needs help, but that you are about to overload and you need some time alone or you will lose control, and that you will look at it later. Then leave the room for awhile or if you can't do that, put on some headphones and listen to music or something, until you calm down.

i try, she knows, she knows all the signs of when i am about to get upset, she's seen enough blood to know how bad i can get

we're trying to make things ok for me.. she's a little bit more understanding it seems now that what i do has a name
she was in a state of panic, this is a project that she has known about for the whole semester and the timeframe that she now has to do it in is very unrealistic and when she panics, i panic and when i panic, she panics and when she panics, i panic and its not very productive

if, in a situation like this where she 'needs' me to help her, i get up and leave becasue i am upset then she will get upset for causing me upset and then it doesn't help me any because now i've gotten her all upset

i dont need to be away from her or even for her to stop talking to me, i just need for her to shhhhhhh~ calm down and maybe smile a little bit for me

i've learned pretty well how to identify what sets me off and i'm very communicative with her, i've always been with everyone, i hate when people misunderstand me but it seems to happen anyway like no one is listening and then they blame me when i do things that they can't accept

she doesnt blame me, she blames my parents but thats a story for another time, either way i dont like to place blame but if anyone should be blamed it's the people that don't listen to me.. once you ignore me, there's nothing i can do to help you protect yourself from me.. i mean that figuratively i don't hurt people... i never want to hurt people.. i only hurt myself... which does hurt people.. just not as bad


i love her and she does do a lot for me and i appreciate all that does for me just one thing that she has a problem with is helping me to help her and i get frustrate

i dont mean to take the attention away from abacacus maybe all of this can help him anyways and i would like to hear more of what he has to say, maybe then we could help him a little more since we are experienced individuals