Most awkward moment that has arisen because of ASD?

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Most of us are prone to misunderstanding things due to our social impairments - what's the most awkward situation you have been placed into because of your Autistic traits or behaviours?

Probably when I got lost in an indoor mall after getting separated from my mom and becoming completely hysterical and the huge crowd of people that formed a circle around me while I was crying, stimming like mad and babbling what probably sounded like gibberish. This happened about a year ago.

There are so many horribly embarrassing things that I don't even know what to say.

Instances where I made a total fool of myself and had no idea that I was being made fun of until much, much later.

Crying in public when I've gotten overwhelmed, as a kid and an adult.

My life is basically perpetual awkward moments. I rarely socialize and barely leave the house now, though. So there aren't many opportunities for those things.

I'll keep thinking and see if I can remember an especially bad one that I'm not too embarrassed to talk about. So far, they're all too embarrassing.

Probably my junior year of high school. We had this discussion thing we were doing and everyone had to talk and say their input. I didn't actually care that much for what I had to say. But when a very awkward girl decided to speak, who's voice was trembling immensily... something about how she was speaking in such an 'off' way made me go into a panic attack. Now keep in mind the class was separated into two different groups on opposite ends of the room, but still in desks, and I was at the furthest end closest to the next group so everyone could see me. My face and neck got bright red, I started sweating until my shirt was essentially soaked (I haven't worn a non-polyester/ nylon shirt out to public since), I was shaking and I was just staring at the back of someone's head infront of me unconditionally. At the end of the class some girls decided to take out their phones and, while laughing ofcourse, take pictures in my direction, as I stared at a blank wall. I went to a bathroom right away and sat in there not knowing what to do next. Thank god it was the last class of the day. I still remember that day photographically.

I cannot remember much, but there was one time where I broke down crying because I did not get to answer a question. Same thing happened when my teacher raised his voice during class. I ended up crying and having to go outside. That's pretty much all I can remember.....

Many, many time, has this happen, one of the reason I don't 'roll' with neurotypicals. IMO, They can never truly understand. For example, I don't go to stores. Mostly, because I tend to wander in stores. Also, sensory issues. Also at Stores I'm prone to problems.

I made an embarrassing mistake in class some years ago (a stupid one as well) and I had a meltdown.

Even though i have not been diagnosed with an ASD and I strongly feel that I have one, one girl at school took a picture of another girl with her face completely up to the computer screen, and she had wrote on a Microsoft word document "I still can't see [My name]:)" they even posted it on Facebook which was worse, That really hurt me so much, they apologised to me and then another girl took a picture of me going home, luckily it was only the back of me, she uploaded it on Facebook as well, both of these incidents happened me 4-5 years ago, I just felt so helpless when these incidents happened.

One that still bothers me is a while ago (several months, maybe a year), my step-dad's old school friend and his family dropped by for dinner, as they were passing through on the way to doing something else. I was doing my best to be sociable and join in the conversation, and when the friend and his wife started talking about their son (who was sitting right there), they mentioned several aspie traits, more than I felt was coincidental. So, in my effort to be helpful and provide them with information I thought they might benefit from, I told them, "Have you ever had him tested for autism spectrum disorder?" The whole table started laughing as if I'd told some hilarious joke. When I asked my mom why they were laughing, she just said, "You're funny StarTrekker." I hate it when people say that, because it doesn't answer the question. Anyway, later, my mom got annoyed with me and said, "You don't tell people you think their kid is autistic; it makes them feel bad." I wanted to know, if they felt that way, why they'd been laughing about it then, and she said, "They were just embarrassed."

That event bothers me, both because I feel stupid that it happened, but also because it makes me feel angry that I tried my best and still failed, and that the communication of the NTs around me was so obscure and absurd. Laughing at something they were upset about? That's ridiculous. I was also a little offended that people should be averse to hearing that their kid might have an ASD, because it so clearly sends the message, "I don't want my kid to wind up like you".

There are a number of them. The worst of which is probably a mock job interview that I had to do for a high school class. I'm still traumatized by it.

God, so many awkward moments to choose from...

I think the worst was at work, because it was pretty early on in a new job. I work for a company that does a lot of contracting for the government. I was working at a government office, and really hated it. My office-mate hated my company and kept saying we were cheating them, the person I was supposed to be training kept avoiding me, the other workers were weird and fighting a lot, and my horrible office-mate had the thermostat turned to freezing. The program manager from my company came to visit me and said something like, "so, how's it going?"

I started to say something, but instead, a big WAIL came out and I had a five minute meltdown right there in the office. Poor guy didn't know what to think! He was a really nice fellow, though, and at least got me moved into another office away from the freezing, mean guy.