do you have trouble controlling ur anger?

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i sometimes do..

this common in AS?

PS. i would like at least a few answers please

It's common with Aspergers Syndrome - on the autistic spectrum generally. Emotions, we feel them more intensely than others and sometimes it's too much handle. Especially emotions such as anger and frustration. In my case, I do have quite the temper, however, I JUST about manage to contain and internalise it. I fear the day I finally lose grasp and actually express anger.

Generally, no. If I'm really angry I'll have to go to my bedroom to calm down alone otherwise I dread to think what I will say or do.

However, lately I'm finding it harder to control my emotions due to starting work and it's absolutely draining me.

I used to be bad at controlling anger. But because of life I've become quite experienced in it. I have full control over my emotions, and don't really get why other people have a hard time with it. It's just one of those things that comes naturally when you grow up, at least that's how it was with me. Like how little kids will throw tantrums but adults behave calmly and in a controlled manner. The latter is often not true which I find really confusing and interesting at the same time. Oh well.

All of that said I have been through a lot so maybe I'm just better at relativizing than others.

Yeah, I let it out in a meltdown.

Yep. Tis common.

I rarely get angry and when I do it is only for a short time, I don't throw thing around or start hitting people but instead get really quiet (more then usually). I must add that my emotions are very "flat", I don't get really angry but also not very happy or exited.

I can't remember the last time I was angry, let alone angry enough to display anything. The closest I come is frustration, annoyance, or disappointment. People at my work have commented on my lack of anger, and seem to be of the opinion that if and when I actually do get angry that it will be a sight to behold. I have a theory it's because I was criticized so much growing up, that instead of getting angry at something, I've been trained to instead think that I did something wrong, and then I just end up feeling guilty, not angry.

Also, conflict in general gets me upset and sends me into a shutdown.

Slight tangent: I don't really swear either, for different reasons; I feel that if you overuse your swearwords they lose their impact, and then what words do you use when you want to get your point across? There's a guy at work that feels like every other word he says is a swear word, and no one bats an eye, but over six months ago some coworkers thought it sounded like I had said the f-word (I hadn't), and they still talk about it today

Yes, absolutely. I find it hard to control my emotions during stress, meltdowns, angered ect

Yep. Can lash out too, including putting my fist through a wall.

I don't really get angry very often but when I do I can sometimes struggle to keep it in, the last time that I got excessively angry I kicked a door so hard that my foot went right through it, I'm never violent towards other people though.

Somewhat. I was kind of violent when I was younger, and even nowadays I tend to yell and cuss loudly when I'm upset. Much of my anger gets bottled up though, because I don't know where else to put it, and I just end up hurting myself in the long run. If I weren't such an out of shape, uncoordinated sonuvabitch, I'd consider taking up a combat sport like boxing or MMA.

Also, when I was younger, I had a bad habit of punching holes in walls, and otherwise destroying things when I was mad.

I tend to have some problems with it. I already broke two computer screens due to anger outbursts among other less relevant things.

It's hard to say with me. I wouldn't consider myself as someone with a "vicious temper", but I did used to have outbursts that maybe were angry (before I went on meds). I would shout, swear, slam doors, cry and even hit myself. But it was a mixture of emotions; anxiety, anguish, rage, depression.
I was never violent towards others though. Well, I may have grabbed my mum once or twice and mildly attack her, but not enough to hurt her or make her frightened of me. I was just frustrated and didn't know how else to express it other than shouting.

Since I've been on meds I have mellowed out a bit, as in being in more control of my emotions in a situation that would have set off an outburst. For some reason I feel that those outbursts I had weren't me at all. Underneath I am a caring, loving, placid person. That's what makes me feel so upset about having ASD. Anger isn't really a personality trait of mine, it's just a symptom of the sh***y Asperger's that I'm doomed with.