The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
So I have arranged to go on a date for the first time in my life. I was wondering if anyone had any advice, seeing as I'm embarking on unfamiliar territory.
Where are you meeting, have you arranged that yet? If it's a place that serves drinks get there before the planned meeting time and acclimate to the environment/get used to a new place. Try and find seating that's a bit private if possible.
Order yourself a coffee, or whatever, and try to relax. Have something to do with your hands like reading (paper/book/comic etc) so you don't fidget. Could play with your phone, I suppose, but, having something more substantial gives you a few seconds to gather your thoughts as you fold up your paper/bookmark your mag/comic as you stand for when she gets there.
Then when she walks in, make eye contact and smile. Super important.
Smiling makes you look 'engaged' and 'in the moment' but if you struggle with those things, just a bit of a smile and eye contact is also ok.
She's probably going to be as nervous as you. So try to keep that in mind if you're in danger of overloading.
This is your cue to ask her if she wants a drink. Presumably she will say yes, so go grab one, then whilst at the counter...
breathe lol
Go back with the drink and make polite chit chat. Start with asking if she found the place ok then segue into asking if she wants to go for a walk after the drink. You could also ask if she's been there before and if yes, what does she like to drink/what's her favourite and so on. Remember also to pause and give her a chance to respond. Listen to what she says and if there's something you want to know more about, ask her.
I'm suggesting going for a walk because it's an activity you can both focus on, instead of worrying about each other
because walking and talking is easier to handle, because you're both also going to be busy watching where you put your feet lol, instead of just sitting and staring at each other across a table if there's suddenly uncomfortable silence.
With that said, stay where you are if you're both comfortable. Remember to ensure you take into account what she wants to do, as well.
Keep it light. Try to smile. Try and find out her interests. Try to maintain some eye contact. And pay her at least one compliment that's genuine.
Good luck. Remember to have FUN cos dating is meant to be. And hopefully there will be a second date