planet me wrote:
Like many people I have a resting b face. Yesterday at work I was scanning someone's dog food with a hand scanner. I am walking back to my register and this man in the line behind me tells me to smile and that I look so grumpy.
i suppose you live in america. in australia, people do not often presume anything about anyone else.
what if your grandmother just died or something ? what if you have a facial paralysis ?
i never smile on cue, but i am never questioned about it, so i guess maybe being a male and being australian, i am not subjected to this type of pressure.
i can not just wear a smile. when i smile, it creeps over my face and usually has nothing to do with what other people are experiencing. faking smiling is something i look down on people for in a way. people who fake smiles are like liars in a way to me.
planet me wrote:
Another time I was waiting on a man and at the end of transaction he says "I have one more request. Smile for me."
if there is no bar code for that request then it can not be charged for, so it is not available.
planet me wrote:
I've read online that many women get ordered to smile from men. Like men feel that women need to look approachable every nano second of the day.
if you are behind the counter with the scanner in your hand and i have an item that i am next in line to buy, then i will approach regardless of smiles.
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Since I have aspergers it's worse because a lot of Asperger's people have problems smiling. I'm sick of being punished for thinking deep thoughts instead of kissing everyone's butt.
i do not know how you are punished for it unless you are made to feel somehow inadequate or guilty about it.
i do not see the sense in smiling except when i find something funny, so no one can convince me i am doing the wrong thing by not forcing myself to smile.
it is curious to me that in most TV ads, everyone who is saying anything is smiling when they say it. it looks stupid to me. how can they smile about what they are saying when what they are saying is just neutral stuff most of the time.
like for a random example, an ad for insurance where a woman says with a constant smile "I never realized i was doing the wrong thing with my insurance plan........etc"
is she smiling because she likes that she was doing the wrong thing?
is she smiling because she wants to look pretty anyway?
is she smiling because she has been told by the advertising executives that she must look like she likes the viewer (who is in her world just the lens of a camera) ?
i worked for a while in an advertising studio and it was astounding to see people talking and smiling to an inanimate camera as if it was their best friend. talking about shoes and stuff.
i am not able to be made feel bad by people who think that that is reality.