Asking a guy if he's single

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I have an eye on someone that I'm friendly with but I don't know if he's married or has a gf.We don't have mutual friend so my only option is to directly ask him.I want to say something like"So do you have a girlfriend or a wife''?Would that a signal that I'm interested in him?

Yes.

If he's not wearing a ring, then you can be fairly certain that he's not married; but I know of no discrete way to find out if he has a girlfriend without stalking him.

How?

Stalking him. There is no discrete way of finding out without stalking him.

Maybe it's just my preference since you're still getting the same point across, but I'd phrase it as, "are you currently seeing someone"?



Ehh I've met guys who don't wear rings even though they're married, so your best bet would be to ask them directly.

People,don't mind it if you ask the if they are "seeing someone," as other posters have mentioned.

"Are you going to the fair/parade/opening of the next Marvel film/ballgame/party/other event".

If he says yes - "Cool, I'll be there too. Maybe I can meet your girlfriend"

If he says no - "Doesn't your girlfriend want to go?"

His response will let you know if he has a girlfriend or not.

That's the way it works in the movies. And copying movies and TV for social interactions has gotten me this far. Sometimes if it is an obscure reference I'll even go word for word.

Usually in cinema the guy will say "I don't have a GF", the girl will giggle, bat her eyes, touch his arm and say "really, I don't believe it". And then that will launch them getting together.

I'd just be direct and let him know you are interested in him. That's always worked for me when I wanted to find out if a girl is single or not.

You could bring it up indirectly in the context of a conversation. Simple example:

Him: it looks like it's raining
You: does your girlfriend like rainy days?
Him: I don't have a girlfriend right now
You: I like rainy days
Him: Would you marry me?



Well that escalated quickly ...

I wish.

Smile at him, go up to him and act a little bashful. "Hi, *smiling while looking at his face then looking down, then back at him.* I was wondering if you're seeing anyone.

Not only will this be asking him directly, but you'll also give him a confidence boost since you asked him directly, but you were bashful about it.

I would say it would definitely tip your hand that you are interested by asking that question but if he doesn't have a ring then I wouldn't worry about a GF because if he cares about her then he will mention he has a GF. Maybe check his facebook relationship status? I dunno, people put a lot of information online.

You could keep it more of a casual question than a direct one.. ie he says or does <something> (that creates an appropriate moment to use a question like this) and you ask "what would your girlfriend think of that?" and then see how he responds.

He may even realize full well that you're pretty much flat out asking, but it'd be done in a more casual low pressure conversational way vs. putting him on the spot.

Alternatively, if you're in BC, Canada, we're close enough that I could just go ask him for you - problem solved.

A lot of blue collar trade workers don't wear rings. If a guy works with his hands and is in construction or questions mechanic etc, he probably won't. Rings can get caught on stuff and my husband doesn't because he isan electrician and that's a shock risk. I know you didn't say all guys do across the board, but most blue collar guys I know who have those kind of jobs don't, and most end up not putting them on when they get home from work after a while.

I don't wear one. I don't like rings anymore and never much did, but I had to take mine off for work at the hospital and didn't want to risk losing it by pinning it to my scrub top. I would put it on at home but after a while I quit. I don't like how they feel and I've never noticed rings any way. I may be in a very small minority of ladies who don't. I have one and sometimes I wear it but usually not.

Not to stereotype men, but for men that do stuff with their hands a ring is an accident waiting to happen.

I read a true story about a guy who shorted out a car battery across his ring with a wrench during installation. It welded to the battery terminal and a wrench, melted around his finger and he peeled all the skin off his finger pulling his hand away. Doctors weren't sure he would retain the digit, but he did.

Also heard a bunch of stories of rings catching on things and hands being injured.

Personally, if I get married I will get a band tattooed around my ring finger. I don't do tattoos and don't have any, but that's what I would do. Besides, my hands tend to swell when it's hot.

As for the question, look, if a guy is in a happy relationship he will be okay with being friends even if he knows you're attracted, and he will know if you ask him if he's seeing anyone. Ask.