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22 May 2016, 12:25 pm

This is not specifically an Autism thing. It can be. But we all speak differently and many times we still manage to communicate well. But we all still have interesting things we carry because of where we come from.

I was listening to a song the other day. It was Jerry Reed, "When You're Hot, You're Hot "
It reminded me of just how strange we communicate when we get into local idioms and such. And, these carry over.

I grew up in the south. And, it is probably the biggest reason I can work with most sayings. Some elude me like the classic "Wearing the heart on the sleeve" because it just makes no sense. Some do. "Ain't you a ray of sunshine today!" because someone is brightening the day.

Most can be used sarcastically though and that can be tough. An example would be how just adding one word twists the meaning to the negative, ""Ain't you just a ray of sunshine today!" One word, and it's changed.

But, those silly, stupid things we say or do because we grew up with them. Just like being Canadian, eh? Ok...you get that in the border states too, so it ain't just Canadians.

This is one that throws people around me. In the south, and with older people (like myself), you will hear them say "Son!"

It means nothing other than an exclamation. It's weird. But, you can hear it used 'properly' and get an idea of what I mean in the opening bars of the song here:


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23 May 2016, 3:01 pm

Eh, son?


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23 May 2016, 3:50 pm

To wear your heart on your sleeve means to have a hard time keeping your emotions to yourself. I read that a long time ago people would traditionally where a heart-shaped symbol on their sleeves to show that they were in love. I'm a bit of a sucker for learning the origins of old sayings that have been used for so long most people don't have a clue why we started saying them in the first place.

Also I've never said "eh" in my whole life. Well sometimes I have, to make fun of the stereotype. :)



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23 May 2016, 3:57 pm

Yeah, that makes sense with the heart on the sleeve as a symbol of love. I had it explained to me, the meaning that is, but now it makes sense.

I can get most of them. Some just stop me cold.

I have no idea why we would emphatically say 'son!' but it's just something that becomes part of you. But I do use 'eh' sometimes in written form.

I rarely hear a Canadian say 'eh.' I think it's just one small part of the myths of everywhere.


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24 May 2016, 8:24 pm

Bless your heart
can be a true prayerful thing or
sarcastic. ..

My use is usually the later.

A man at work calls all young folks son.
They don't seem to mind , but something in my brain, doesn't like it.

I like to study not only comedy, laughter but also words.


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24 May 2016, 8:29 pm

drlaugh wrote:
Bless your heart
can be a true prayerful thing or
sarcastic. ..

My use is usually the later.

A man at work calls all young folks son.
They don't seem to mind , but something in my brain, doesn't like it.

I like to study not only comedy, laughter but also words.
Hahahahahahaha

I do use bless your heart, but in the nice way. It's difficult because most people think it's bad because of ill informed comedy.

I call anybody younger than 40 'kids', 'boys', 'girls'. Sometimes young lads and lasses.

But I've never called anyone son that wasn't my kid. Just that weird thing we do like in the opening of the song.

But, nobody is talking about the strange things they do. :cry:


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24 May 2016, 8:47 pm

Here's one real life
My real life...

While talking about a future event, sometimes people ask , what time is it?
I reply the current time.


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24 May 2016, 8:58 pm

I can see me doing that LOL


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24 May 2016, 9:03 pm

The key is to know the context.

I've been known to do this sort of thing, too.



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24 May 2016, 9:06 pm

My ex-wife was great at it. Her nickname was "Gracie" for Gracie Allen. She would just get into these strange modes where she would take everything in an 'off' way. It was really funny and she would laugh as well when she understood.


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24 May 2016, 9:10 pm

Gracie Allen was a genius!

I only discovered "Burns and Allen" in the 1980s. I wish they'd bring back some of those early 50's shows.

"Topper" was also a funny show. It featured an alcoholic St Bernard dog.



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24 May 2016, 9:26 pm

Yeah, she got to the point that when people laughed, she would ask what she said. She was a good woman. We just fought too much. But, she was a good woman.


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24 May 2016, 9:35 pm

Is there the possibility of a reconciliation?



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24 May 2016, 10:16 pm

Oh...LOL...That was my first wife. We are friends now. That was almost 28 years ago. She found a good man. He's perfect for her. They are happy and I call her husband my 'hubby-in-law'.

The current wife and I are working on things slowly. She's still separated from me. But, we talk. It's been good to have some space, honestly. It's been easier not having to deal with any individual in my proximity whilst I work through things. The solitude has been good. I do not have to balance time with people with time alone to recharge, if that makes sense.

But, we shall see.


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25 May 2016, 3:12 am

for the last 7 years i have been saying audibly "deja vu" to myself every time i get the feeling.

i never ask myself why i do it and i have never "missed" a saying.


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25 May 2016, 6:01 am

I was doing a program for an after school program.
It was a small informal group.
At one point a couple of kids were laying on their stomachs with their heads on their elbows.
It reminded me of a yoga pose.
I then changed from a kneeling position to
1st a plank and then a cobra
The kids copied me.
I quipped to them and the teachers in the back of the room,
We are now doing
Yogi Bear.
My laugh programs have set components and sometimes I go intro improvisation mode


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