What doesn't kill you makes you Stronger... Really??

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Does anyone believe this saying? Cause I can say that having autism my whole life, I DON'T FEEL STRONGER!! !! I feel at 36 yrs old, WORN OUT!!!Enduring the poor SOCIAL SKILLS that kept me from dating women being a virgin and making friends. The LEARNING DISABILITIES that made me struggle all through high school and kept from passing my graduation exam thus no diploma thus no attending college thus no college education! My poor MOTOR SKILLS that affected me from being able to keep even a LOW PAYING JOB, AND EVEN HAVING BASIC HOBBIES!! ! I wish sometimes I could just stay home and away from the world forever! I don't feel Stronger!! ANYONE ELSE AGREE OR FEEL LIKE ME?????

What doesn't kill you makes you wish you were dead.

Amen!! !! !! ! lol

Depends on the situation really, but mostly its a load of crap.

You become "stronger" because you've endured hardship.

One you've endured hardship, you could teach others how to endure hardship.

You're a useful person merely by virtue of having endured hardship.

Therefore, you are a viable person worthy of being alive--just by virtue of having endured hardship.

I ain't talking s**t here.

You already gained something, somehow, somewhat. You just can't appreciate it yet.

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That which does not kill me makes a tactical error.

I fight back.

I like how the mouse is able to bench press the trap!

No. It's Pollyanna bull sh!t that people like to believe and by which they harshly judge others who did not manage to survive well through bad things.

What doesn't kill you makes you STRANGER.

And I agree with Raleigh, what doesn't kill you makes you WISH you were dead.

I have "gotten through" a lot of really sh!tty things in my life and I am a survivor because I got through them, I took control of AS MUCH AS I was able to do so, and I did ALL that sh!t Oprah type Pollyanna people tell you to do.

I got myself out of bad situations by my own strength of will, will to survive, changed things for myself, "improved" myself and my life BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH freakng BLAH.

I DID all that but the sheer STRESS of even doing all that has made me changed. I'm not "stronger" I'm just completely DAMAGED by the stress. And then my reward is to be judged by people who think I should somehow be perfectly okay and it's a personal failing that I'm not. Screw those people. They don't even know how much worse off I COULD be and that what I am now is actually the best success I could have achieved under the specific circumstances, they don't even know what I HAVE done and I could be dead now. Some people will always judge you without even KNOWING you or being there to see what you DID achieve and how damn hard that was. Screw them.

Loved the mouse pic Raleigh ))

The cliche that is the title of this thread sits in a bunch with others like "when life hands you lemons, make lemonade" - or as some wit rephrased that: "when life hands you melons, it's probably handed you dyslexia too". Mindless positivity sloganing doesn't inspire me much - on bad days it can almost drain me of the will to breathe!

When I am around unrelentingly "positive" people - why must they always speak in received slogans and cliches? Why can't they form any original thoughts? Their incapacity to do so drains me of the will to ever voluntarily spend another moment in their company, ever. Obviously what is positive for one is not positive for another - even what is positive is subjective, though CBT practitioners think they know what you need to think, it seems.

I am not anti-optimism. Optimistic people can sometimes be comforting and inspiring - if they are genuine, and express something that arises from inner experience. This is a world away from the "positivity parrots" who do 3 million affirmations a day because a book told them to. Denial is never good for the soul, and the only way out of the most difficult feelings like sadness is to go through them (I think) rather than taking the cliche cure.

What doesn't kill you allows you to live another day, and sometimes strength is born of adversity, for some. But that is usually hard won by the person, it's not the result of believing in simplistic cliches which posit that everyone functions in the same way. Bah!! ! Humbug!! !

Sometimes "strength" in the person who overcame adversity is overlooked or not credited to them just because they didn't come out the other side all sweetness and light.

Sweetness and light was what got me INTO the life-destroying situations that caused me to have be "strong" about the ensuing crisis....

I agree with BirdInFlight! Living through some adversity doesn't necessarily make a person "stronger" it simply means they lived through it without dying. In fact worst case you may be weaker. Its a platitude to make weak feel better about their circumstances. I'm not saying some don't become stronger but its not unanimous.

No...people don't often come out of bad situations all roses and stuff!

Still, they have inherent credibility because of what they have experienced.

I still believe people get stronger because they experience adversity. I don't believe--just because something is broken---that it can't be ultimately fixed. It might remain broken for a long time, though, which is frustrating.

I don't care what you believe. Many people "believe" things that aren't objectively true. Astrology and Religion are two that come to mind.