Identifying other aspies

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Recently I was introduced to someone who immediately knew I was an aspie the first time I opened my mouth. He went on to describe which countries/races are likely to have more or less than their share of aspies and a few conspiracy theories.

When I asked how he knew he said I was very much focused on what I was saying. Are there any particular clues to ID other aspies? Any suggestions on what to work on when meeting new people?

Was he an aspie himself?

Takes one to know one.
Plus lucky guess.

It's like the so-called "gay-dar" with gay people. Gays can tell if somebody else is gay using their "gay-dar."

-Blank stare
-poor eye contact
-static eye contact
-eccentric gait
etc.

There is a "street magician" trick (think David Blaine et al) where they ask someone to think of a card, the magician says what the card is and is correct, to stunned disbelief from the crowd and all around.

Well, that's the take that's televised, what they don't televise are the 60 takes where the guess was wrong

That's a very common card trick. It usually is successful. I would gather that it's a pretty simple trick.

The body language is something that usually makes me sure that someone is an aspie. When walking, a lot of autistic people will be kind of light and bouncy on their feet. It's toe-walking, but as adults they will mostly put their whole foot on the ground. They result of only lightly touching the ground with the heels makes the foot look a little bouncy. Then, the arms tend to be straight down and rigid, not swinging. If they know they are being observed, they will start swinging their arms. This is the clincher- that they will see you observing them and start walking "more normally." Most people will not change the way they walk if the see that someone is watching them.

Then, yeah, the blank stare or avoidance of eyes. And there can be a way that many aspies dress. Softer, looser clothes, sometimes older clothes. Sometimes women will go a little longer before washing their hair and wear less makeup. Women may wear eccentric jewelry, or none at all. I'm not sure I've ever seen an aspie woman wearing heels.

Keep in mind that any of these things could be, and are often, purposefully changed to keep people from knowing that a person is on the autism spectrum. So a woman may wear bright lipstick to distract away from her eyes, or a person may have a physical routine they do so that their mannerisms seem like neurotypical mannerisms.

There is one guy I have to deal with in a professional setting. I met him today in the supermarket, and I'm sure he didn't recognize me. He's got everything: the blank, dark stare, the monotone voice. When you shake his hand he whips his face sharply to the side so he doesn't have to look you in the eye, and drops your hand extremely quickly. People who deal with him complain very strongly about him sitting and looking only at his computer while having a conversation, and that he doesn't seem to care. I googled him for fun, and I found only two mentions; one where he was involved in an idealistic action, and another where he'd written a letter to the editor of a national newspaper, complaining about the low standard of a certain article, and how its grammatical errors made the whole thing impossible to understand...

He's a really ok guy, though. The funny thing is that if you actually talk to him you'll find that he is extremely serious about his job, and actually trying to help, he just gets extremely frustrated when he's not getting the information that he needs to do his job.

Perhaps I am wrong about him, but I get that same feeling talking to him that I get with some other aspies; what a relief to talk to someone who actually listens to what I say rather than imagining all sorts of strange things loosely based on what I said.