The NT Has No Clothes

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Do you feel that you can see a reality that is imperceptible to neurotypicals? I do. I feel like I can see all the ugliness that they are able to dismiss. A concrete world where children and the elderly are warehoused so the workers can busy themselves, spirituality fulfilled with products and brand affiliation. Empty salutations, selfishness and broken promises. Now, I know, I am depressed and am being treated for it. But which came first, the depression or the ugliness? If people saw what I see why wouldn't they be depressed?

Anyway, the reason I ask is because I have noticed that the nt world, in their dealings with autistic people, seem to believe that it is paramount to our "treatment" that we are taught to socialize. I have never been able to figure out why this is important. But it occurs to me that it could be because they know we can see this reality and they don't like it. We expose their nakedness, the emptiness of their verbal preening and shows of solidarity.

I'm NT, but I became aware of this "real world" you're talking about only when I started studying sociology. I learned how to observe social interactions and how people stand and react to the social world that they perceive. It was kind of like swallowing the Matrix pill. It's made it hard for me to forget how artificial many neurotypical things are. I sometimes find myself forgetting to say and do the right things around other neurotypicals.

The thing is that neurotypicals do not care whether or not anyone can see that the NT has no clothes on, as long as everyone acts as though he does.

I have an ASD, and I agree with both of the preceding members on this topic.

There is more to add, though.

1. In the NT world, it seems that image is more important than substance. That is, what people think about you is more important than what they know about you. This is why your social skills are at least as important as your technical skills (if not more so) in hiring and employment.

2. In the NT world, it seems that belief is more important than knowledge. That is, as long as you believe strongly in the validity of your own beliefs, then that alone makes your beliefs valid. This is called "Circular Reasoning", and seems to form the basis of what passes for knowledge in the NT world.

3. In the NT world, it seems that comfortable lies are more important than uncomfortable truths. That is, empty flattery is more well-received than helpful advice. This is why it's important to lead with praise before getting down to the cold, hard facts with an NT.

It's almost as if NT's receive the Blue Pill at birth, while people with ASDs receive the Red Pill at birth.

Why can't people just accept others for who they are instead of wanting to change them all the time? If you don't like how a certain person in your life acts, then just avoid them.

...people are accepted for as long as they are not interfering with our life, but if the habits are bad enough to affect our efforts, try imaging what it might be like if you have to rely on a consistently late NT to take you to appointments, NTs who make a gigantic mess when you're trying to get s**t in the house organised, NTs who mix important items with unimportant items whilst making said mess (such to the point that NEITHER of you can find the important items/documents without having to DIG THROUGH the mountains of clutter), but if you can't see how these things are crossing the line of acceptability, due to affecting our livelihoods, the more reason we end up having to vent and rant about it so that we don't feel like the only isolated individual on the whole entire planet who seems to be the only one in our whole entire community to experience these frustrations.

You can't fire the (technically) self-employed who also has retirement-enabling finances from inheritance.

I think this 'no cure' attitude where there is nothing 'wrong' with us but with everybody else is damaging as it is dismissive to those of us that do need assistance and is essentially saying to pull yourself up from your bootstraps. All I can say is my education totally failed me and left totally unprepared for the 'real world', they straight up refused to pay for me to go to a specialized school and paid a union teacher even more money than the tuition to come out to my house twice a week to do an hour of pretend school work. I essentially dropped out of high school in the 9th grade and thats how they passed me thru high school, they gave me no help socially or anything and rather just further isolated me and made any semblance of a transition a complete joke. They had nothing for me, my life is where is now in large part of avoidance and reluctance to accept treatment of any sort which left me reclusive for years. Not all of us are so lucky to be born into good families, good neighborhoods, with good friends and you can be crippled without it. Being able to socialize is paramount to functioning as human, it is a deficiency that at least I feel I have. I dunno if this is on topic or not or if I'm just replying to words. "The NT world" doesn't seem to have time for me and I don't have any other world besides the one in my head. **** it.