I'm being severely penalized for reporting a bullying issue.

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I'm very new to this forum, so I'm not sure of the best section to post this in...

As of May 21st 2016 I have been in some very heavy pain inside. For many weeks prior to this, I had been incessantly bullied in a group I was in for a while. I also had several friends there. But like 3-4 of the people there would regularly bully me since the start of May 2016. I tried to tell many of the people in charge but they wouldn't do anything half the time. Also in mid-May, the issue got worse as several people ended up leaving a group chat, and those were the people I felt most comfortable with as well as trusted the most. This caused the bullying issue to become worse. Because I felt like I had nobody to talk to about it by that point, as a last resort I tried to get help via a third party. A few of the people from there are on twitter with me so I tweeted about the issue I was having hoping that someone, preferably other locals in the group chat with me, could see it and help me. But on May 21st, one of the members did an audit of the group and when I tweeted I was being bullied in the group chat, a person kicked me out of the group chat because they mistakenly believed that I tweeted insulting remarks about them on their behalf when clearly that was not the case and if they saw what I wrote they would realize that. They did not allow me a chance to explain myself before they kicked me out. I don't think that "shooting first and asking questions later" is the best way to go, especially if people don't have any prior knowledge of what's going on.

Shouldn't people have the right to report bullying or harassment? I have NEVER heard of cases where reporting bullying or harassment was a punishable offence on the victim's end; most schools and workplaces actually have legal policies in place requiring things to be done about those issues.

I'm feeling socially depressed because I had several friends in there that I miss very badly. I'm starting to miss spending time with them. I really need to re-join these people very soon, like sometime in July at the latest. I'm having trouble finding a person to talk to about it and I'm desperate. I'm worried that they won't believe me and they'll think I'm lying if I tell them my intentions and that I was being bullied by particular people and no one would listen to me.

Right now, my main concern is that I miss a group of friends in there and it makes me cry nearly every day. And that I get double jeopardy for the same thing; a bullying victim being punished for reporting the issue. I also forgot to mention, I do indeed have a disability known as autism and I feel like I get treated 10x worse because of it.

By the way that posted twice by mistake, before I finished typing, so that was most likely a glitch.

Being bullied and then kicked out sounds doubly rough. What do you want to do at this point? For example, is there a way to contact your friends in the group? Also, without knowing what you said versus what they said, it's hard to know what else to tell you.

They mistakenly believed that I put up insulting comments about these people, making them look bad. I swear on my life I did not do that. I could probably contact a couple of them but I'm very shy socially, mainly because I'm scared of how they'll react. Some people did try to support me and some of them miss me as well. But what hurts me the worst is that people can get punished for reporting a form of harassment. At least one person who was very friendly with me, turned against me when this happened.

I know this is way easier said than done. The thing is, the way I see it, if you don't contact your friends, you'll all definitely lose out. If you contact them and tell them what happened, you have a chance of staying friends. Perhaps getting up the courage to write out what you would say, as a first step?

It is sad that this happened to you.

It may seem to you like suddenly everyone hates you and the whole of the world has turned its back on you. But what might be happening is that all this bullying is actually orchestrated just by one or few key persons. Other people just play their notes, not their own.

These key people are typically narcissistic or sociopathic with varying degrees. They are like a drop of contaminated water. They are in the minority, but the thing is that when that one drop gets into a well of fresh and clean water, it pollutes the whole well.

As suggested above, you might contact a person you trust the most. Explain your side of the story. Who do you trust then, that is the tricky question.

If they don't believe you, stick to the truth still. Keep your inner well-spring clean. Their hate is their hate.

Where can I find this group? If I was there they might kick me out, but Id leave my mark.