police violence and rape culture: 2 sides of the same coin?

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Everything *anyone* says is what they 'think.' Saying 'I think' or 'I believe' is a cushion that is literally unnecessary but socially relevant.
http://franklyspeakingnews.com/2014/12/ ... ve-speech/

there's a difference between a drive and a perspective. i said "an emotional perspective" (or something to that effect. i don't remember the exact wording). "logic is the beginning of wisdom", while emotion is what drives the search (and is also the end goal in itself, because life is what we experience, regardless of any objective reality). nobody will start discussions or come to conclusions on their own if they don't care about it. "it's not the one or the other that makes things bad, it's imbalance and incongruence", and things need to be acknowledged for what they are. there's venting and there's deliberating. different things

when you're venting, it simply doesn't matter if you're right or not. it's only supposed to be self-validation of what's bothering you. but when venting is expected to be taken as deliberation, different standards apply, and it's really a recipe for invalidation and conflict. because you essentially expose your feelings to be judged logically by others. feelings aren't subject to the domain of right-or-wrong. when they are subjected to it, that's when bad things happen

civilization itself is based on unsustainable imbalances, and has been from the very beginning. i think what distinguishes us as a species (even from, or particularly from, other hominids) is the illusion that we can control anything (even the very fundamentals of inequality) if we apply ourselves enough or sacrifice to the right gods, which in practice results in the continuous deterioration of the very environments we depend on or have come to depend on (both natural and human-made, both concrete and abstract)

Eh, I think tone is more important than you're giving credit for, especially if you're going for persuasion or appealing to other people. You might be technically correct in the literal sense, but I'm less interested in that than I am in what is actually effective in the real world, an attitude I think a lot of AS people would do well to emulate.

I can't even figure out when I'm supposed to say 'hello' to someone. First? Second? Does it have to do with social dominance? If so, whom am I supposed to see as dominant? Should I fake it if someone I don't respect is technically in a higher position...?

Why so much concern about social hierarchy? I just try to mirror what everyone else seems to be doing, remind myself not to monologue, and keep and eye out of the handful of cues that I've memorized indicating impatience or annoyance. Works well enough for me, though it is kind of tiring to maintain for any length of time.

Online is different of course, but it's here that I make such a point of qualification, since I can feel myself reacting to the tone of other people's posts and actually break them down to see what it is that's causing the reaction, and alter my own posting style accordingly. I noticed early on that I didn't like people who's writing seemed overly sure of their opinions, so I adapted my own to include qualifiers, as I try to avoid doing things that would irritate me if done to me, which seems like common courtesy.

Why so much concern about social hierarchy? I just try to mirror what everyone else seems to be doing, remind myself not to monologue, and keep and eye out of the handful of cues that I've memorized indicating impatience or annoyance. Works well enough for me, though it is kind of tiring to maintain for any length of time.

Online is different of course, but it's here that I make such a point of qualification, since I can feel myself reacting to the tone of other people's posts and actually break them down to see what it is that's causing the reaction, and alter my own posting style accordingly. I noticed early on that I didn't like people who's writing seemed overly sure of their opinions, so I adapted my own to include qualifiers, as I try to avoid doing things that would irritate me if done to me, which seems like common courtesy.