Sex and anxiety

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Hey guys, hopefully some of you here can relate to this as it's really starting to frustrate me and my girlfriend especially.

When we start fooling around and things start getting hot I've got no problem with my "mojo", but once we start having sex I sometimes start to drift mentally and usually end up having anxiety which brings everything to a dead stop. Then I start worrying that I'm worrying and not turning her on and instead of focusing her on and the moment I am completely caught up in my head.

It's not like we don't ever have good sex, sometimes it's phenomenal and we both are worry free and just stuck in the moment....that can go on sometimes for weeks with out any loss of libido, we actually can't keep our hands off of each other. It seems to wax and wane with my level of stress. When I'm stressing out I just cant focus on her or the sex and I feel really bad getting my girlfriend hot and bothered then not being able to preform.

Any suggestions to help keeping the "baggage" out of my head while I'm trying enjoy some intimacy? Would more fore play help or teasing one another? I like it when she plays hard to get but that works for the foreplay.... Hope this is an appropriate place to post this.

Thanks guys

Now is this related to any form of performance anxiety do you think? I've struggled with similar issues that would also come and go.

There may not be anything wrong with it, may just be a normal fluxuation of sex drive. But i took all sorts of supplements to combat it because I wanted my manhood to work on command every time until I wanted to be done with it.

there you go. that's all you need to remember

the phenomenal times wouldn't be phenomenal without the meh ones. you're expecting too much of yourself and reality. sometimes it's not that great. that's normal. i'd say for most people that's probably most times, and "phenomenal" simply never happens for them, so you're ahead of the curve already

if that's just you, then that's just you, and got your solution right there. but if it's your girlfriend demanding it from you, or ignoring the fact that sometimes you just happen to be stressed and it's not about her, then you have a relationship problem, not a sex problem