Liking someone but not in that way

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What does it mean if you 'like' someone but at the same time don't 'fancy' them?

A possibly decent and loyal friendship.....?

Don't understand what you mean?

It means the person doesn't want s sexual relationship.

Would they not want marriage either?

Being married implies a willingness to take care of a kid.
It formalizes the legal obligations between you, your spouse, and your kids.

Did someone say this to you?

It usually means they like you as a person, find you interesting or friendly or good company, that sort of thing, but they don't find you sexually attractive and don't have a romantic interest in you.

Basically, it's a good start to a friendship.

The person wouldn't want marriage.....only friendship.

Hmm...I'm thinking that maybe I'm really different from others. Since the best thing I can give any man is true friendship, which I have none yet.

Anyway it's very sad that when I tell some guys who show their interests in me that I want to be their sincere buddy, most of them just stop talking to me. Most of them assume they've just been rejected.

For me it's very unreal, too wild fancy to imagine marrying someone who's not my true friend.

Or they might have thought that I'm actually a dude lol?

For a man, it can be difficult to have a woman he is attracted to as only a buddy.

This difficulty is not insurmountable, though. I can be buddies with women I'm attracted to.

It can get frustrating, though.

^ Yeah, but true friendship is the hardest thing you can develop. There exists far distance between being an acquaintance and being a friend.

I agree.

I'm sorry to hear that, it sucks but not very surprising. I don't get along with the majority of guys and I've always connected best with my female friends. I hate it when people think with their genitalia. I used to think it was mostly guys who acted that way, but now I know most people are like that. Not too long ago, a friend called me demisexual. It means that you need an emotional connection with someone before you feel sexual attraction. I had no idea this wasn't the norm.

Thanks. I'm not sure if I'm demisexual tho because I can't tell if I can be emotionally connected with a guy if there is no physical attraction in the first place.

You don't have to want to have kids in order to get married. Meaning, kids aren't a deal breaker. There's a lot of people that do not want kids, or cannot have kids, but still want to get married. On the Demisexual thing, I thought there was more to it than just needing an emotional bond before being attracted to someone? I thought most people had to be emotionally attracted to someone before they could be sexually attracted to them? I too also thought this is the norm? I also fit into this category. This is why I do not have a physical "Type". I have an emotional "Type". If they fit that emotional criteria, then they become sexually and physically attractive to me, regardless of what they look like.