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LeaPoufyPony
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16 Sep 2016, 9:12 am

We met on Face book back in 2011 and met in person a moth later.We had strong connection but the distance eventually took it's toll and he broke it off since neither of us were in a position to move.


After time part we would reconnect and meet up again.This went on on and off for few years untill we finally broke it off for good in late November of 2014 when he met someone closer.I tried to move on but haven't connected with anyone the way we did.

In any event,he started reaching out to me again more than year later.He sent me multiple messages back in April and june telling me that he had been thinking about me and misses me etc.He also left his number for me to contant. We chatted ,catching up on our lives. He openly admitted that he has always thought about me and is happy to reconnect.

However,he has been wanting to skype with me but we couldn't due to of schedule confliction.I finally I told him that I can stay up late to which he responded sure I'm looking forward to talk to you.

Needlessly to say, he didn't show up online and didn't contact me to let me know he couldn't make it.He finally got in touch the next day and said he got caught up with work and was busy.I got mad and for him standing me up which escalated into fight.We didn't talk for a month .We recently got back in touch 2 weeks ago.We planned to visit each other in 2 weeks and he said he would book 4 days at his work so he can drive down here to see me.I was really looking forward to it and we talked everyday

Then all the sudden I noticed that he wasn't putting any effort into contacting me anymore. I was the one always initiating contact and sometimes he wouldn't respond.I didn't think much of it .I then texted him and ask him to come on skype before he goes to work.He responded and said sure.We skyped for a bit but didn't talk because his volume on his phone was not working, according to him.Then he had to get off so he can get ready for work.He also promised to take a pic for me later on.

In any event,I texted him and said it was nice seeing him and I can't wait to see him in person. We exchanged few text then all the sudden he said "he's not sure if he can't do this anymore and he is sorry. Then proceeded to say, it wouldn't be a problem if we didn't live so far apart and maybe we might have something in future when his life is more settled.

This came as complete shock to me so I immediately asked if he is not coming anymore to see me and I asked for more explanation. I also expressed my disappointment since I was really looking forward to see him.He didn't respond to these messages and ignored further messages from me.I even let him know I was willing to move to his town in the near future to no avail.

I am so hurt he would just drop me like this. Should I ignore him if he tries to reach out in the future? Is he just playing me?I thought we had a future



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16 Sep 2016, 9:21 am

It seems like he is using you as sort of a stop-gap measure any time something fails in his relationships.



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16 Sep 2016, 9:34 am

"Needlessly to say, he didn't show up online and didn't contact me to let me know he couldn't make it.He finally got in touch the next day and said he got caught up with work and was busy.I got mad and for him standing me up which escalated into fight.We didn't talk for a month .We recently got back in touch 2 weeks ago.We planned to visit each other in 2 weeks and he said he would book 4 days at his work so he can drive down here to see me.I was really looking forward to it and we talked everyday

Then all the sudden I noticed that he wasn't putting any effort into contacting me anymore. I was the one always initiating contact and sometimes he wouldn't respond."

The above parts would piss me off. Once someone stops responding or appears to be uninterested in hearing from me anymore then I am done. My time is too valuable to waste on people who don't want to be around me.


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16 Sep 2016, 5:26 pm

A bond can't be built normally with a such distance.

At least not everyone can.



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16 Sep 2016, 7:37 pm

Find someone else.