The dichotomy of Aspergers

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I have noticed that, for myself, Aspergers manifests itself in dichotomous ways. For instance: I can be extremely emotional at times (sometimes when I shouldn't be), and can be extremely insensitive at times (again, sometimes when I shouldn't be). Also, I desire to be by myself, yet at the same time can't last very long without human connection. Additionally, I can be extremely cognizant of certain actions by others, yet completely oblivious to others. There are several other instances I can provide, but I think these are sufficient to get my point across. Anyone else experience this?

Yes! I can be incredibly empathetic to the point where I cannot watch the news, but, at times, I'm so focused on my interests I'm self-centered.

Yes and no.

Needing isolation yet enjoying the few chances I do get to talk to someone. That's the dichotomy I have to wrestle with.

Isolation wins when there is a choice between the two. Isolation is the natural need. The talking is just a stimulating event that is viewed as idiotic after it's finished. Nothing was usually accomplished. No problems were solved. No real outcome was achieved. It was ambiguous chatter. So it was wasted effort. Thank goodness it's over.

The not knowing gets me: when it's pointed out how ridiculously literal I'm being

OP sounds like mee, too.

Yes, and I think I know why that it! It's simply because some of us cannot pick up on social cues. And non-verbal ones are the absolute worst. Communication is key! If said person is shopping and tosses a handful of cadbury eggs into the shopping basket, my initial response is.."no no no I got to cut down on the sweets and sugar!" To which I put them back, To which said person gives me an icy glance and doesn't say anything until we are like 50 feet from the house.
it is then when she says "Jerk!" I haven't had one of those since I was like 10 years old!"

So what I did according to mainstream society is insensitive and condescending. Well......I say a big fat no to that. Unless she said "I haven't had one since..." and I immediately respond by putting them back then yes, I am a c**t, jerk, insensitive condescending a-hole (or whatever)but until that, no

This is just one in like a bazillion examples where things go to hell simply because of miscommunication and one of the main reasons people like us with Asperger's can't seem to get along as couples or some other people.

This might explain why am I driving myself insane from time to time...

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Nope. I just simply didn't "see it" or "feel" anything until afterwards.

I usually like solitude, but sometimes feel guilty for not "checking in" with friends more often. Fortunately the friends I do have don't seem to be bothered by the "radio silence" or a random "hello" text.

It's kind of like how being lazy is preferable, but after a long period of laziness I might have stored up enough energy that I'm ready to go for a jog.