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Northeastern292
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28 Oct 2016, 8:13 am

So I've been chatting with this girl on OkCupid. She's a college senior, a tad younger than me, lives two hours away. We started chatting in September, didn't hear from her for a while, and last week while I was out and about I heard back. Earlier this week I proposed texting. She said that for the time being that she could only Snapchat. That should have been my first fair warning.

For the last two days she's been complaining that a friend of hers was supposed to help her with some windshield wipers. Yesterday this friend (who also works at an auto parts store) came through to help. Two of her snap stories show her at this friend's house, and she's yet to reply to my snaps. I have a funny feeling that she's lost whatever interest in chatting with me and has moved on, and is probably moving on with this friend, who by the looks, is sort of unkept.

I'm have reasons to be suspicious, a wee jealous and a tad upset. We've been back and forth Snapchatting and I usually hear from her in the mornings.

For the NT and aspie dating pro's, is it me or does something stench here?

Personally I prefer to text, and snapchat-only deals I put up with just because. In case I forget what I sent last, I can always look back. Can't do that with the ghost.



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28 Oct 2016, 12:57 pm

Well you can wait and see if she does respond, it is possible she just hasn't gotten back to you yet. And since you guys haven't gotten to the meeting up in person part, she may not be prioritizing that and got caught up in something else.

I just find it weird that if she wasn't interested she would message you back after all that time initially...I waited like a month before responding to a guy who is now my boyfriend because I was feeling angry about being led on by someone before that and needed time to recover from it. But yeah just doesn't make sense to me to bother with it after a length of time like that if you're not that interested.

Quite likely this friend and her are only friends...You're not a couple yet so I'd be careful about the jealousy keep in mind if you and her did form a serious relationship he might just be a good friend of hers which would mean you'd likely end up socializing with him as well.

Of course if it is that she's more interested in him then not much you can do about it though it would make it a sh*tty move on her part to string you along with no intent of even trying to date in which case there are probably better people to look forward to.



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28 Oct 2016, 1:57 pm

Sweetleaf wrote:
Well you can wait and see if she does respond, it is possible she just hasn't gotten back to you yet. And since you guys haven't gotten to the meeting up in person part, she may not be prioritizing that and got caught up in something else.

I just find it weird that if she wasn't interested she would message you back after all that time initially...I waited like a month before responding to a guy who is now my boyfriend because I was feeling angry about being led on by someone before that and needed time to recover from it. But yeah just doesn't make sense to me to bother with it after a length of time like that if you're not that interested.

Quite likely this friend and her are only friends...You're not a couple yet so I'd be careful about the jealousy keep in mind if you and her did form a serious relationship he might just be a good friend of hers which would mean you'd likely end up socializing with him as well.

Of course if it is that she's more interested in him then not much you can do about it though it would make it a sh*tty move on her part to string you along with no intent of even trying to date in which case there are probably better people to look forward to.


She did get back to me an hour ago, so that's an optimistic sign.

On another note, I got a prank call from someone.....what the heck?