Do you always look like you're frowning?

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after reading a post about light therapy ive began to think about the numerous times throuhout my life i have been acused of frowning and being ill temperd when all along it may have just been my reitna's reaction to all of the lights surrounding me..i can remember being suprised everytime i heard the question"are you mad?" so many times its should have been my middle name....

i am of african american decent and from my knowledge have nothing else mixed within that...I have been told on various occasions that i look like i am part asian due to my eyes which tend to look more closed than open...

this may just be some wild light/frown conspiracy theory of mine, but its going on 1 am and i felt like posting my thoughts...

Not sure but I get told to cheer up a lot even when I'm perfectly cheery. Mind you, people domake me frown a lot...

I walk around with a stupid smile on my face the majority of the time, even when I'm not that thrilled with things, lol.

I expect NTs would complain about that too!

Your avatar is fabulous by the way!

my normal expression is one that people interpret as miserableness.

Some time within the past 10 years (I'm 37) I have learned to smile when looking at people. But yeah, I used to get the "what's wrong?" "Are you crying?" "What Happened?"
It's even worse if someone is talking to me and I can't "hear" them. I had a boss who swore I was angry at her because I was walking around with that grimace and she was calling me over and I couldn't hear her though I was really close.
For me it's not light sensitivity but just my thinking face.

I used to force myself to smile when someone smiled at me. I am afraid I just tend to look blankly at them now or glare.
I just am not prone to be a smiley person unless I am in one of my hyper or clownlike moods.
My mother was always asking why I couldn't smile more and why I was so miserable, and I tried to explain that I wasn't. It gets irksome. Why do people always assume your face has to reflect what is going on inside?

Apparently I always frown or others claim that I do. To be hapy or content I don't need to smile and skip around the room. They just say I'm a miserable bugger since I born but oh well.

No…I look like…, mute and monotonous? I don't show overt emotion that humans can pick up on....

Well…I do, but it’s much different to “normal” people; think how cats act when they like you, i.e., I’ll put my forehead on people I like; I’d rather do that than compliment someone with a word, or a smile....

Doing what "normal" people do doesn't feel "normal" to me; it's like trying to walk everywhere backwards and you start to wonder why you aren't keeping up with the herd who’s moving normally.

I was called "smiler" at home and school which i thought odd but didnt mind, until i found out it was sarcasm and they thought i was miserable. i couldnt understand why they said it, i would be feeling just fine and they would come out with that name and make me unhappy, idiots. it felt like everyone was preoccupied with my expression. even an old friend of my parents said it after i seen him again after i grew up. i started making what i thought where ridiculous efforts to have a huge cheesy grin, and they still thought i was miserable lol, so wierd. it reminds me of the simpsons episode, "homer at the bat", where mr burns has a baseball team and keeps telling Mattingly to shave his sideburns lol, you have to see it tbh

It's interesting that you mention that. I was always told of for frowning as a child when I wasn't doing it intentionally or consciously at all! It was just my 'neutral' expression that for whatever reason seemed to people to look like a frown.

My mother always snapped at me to 'relax your face' but I had no idea what she was talking about!

"Did your dog die"....fairly common.I was shopping yesterday and a stranger said(a stranger mind you)....

"everything will be fine,dont look so serious"who the hell is he to tell me how to look...I am fricken 43.I told him..."I have to concentrate to find food that is inexpensive,healthy and tastes good...that serious business"....got a stunned? smile.

So,yes.I have heard that I was either angry or sad and on the phone they ALWAYS ask if they woke me up.

I don't know if I frown, exactly, but I get a lot of random, unsolicited "cheer up" comments sometimes. I've learned to be fairly nonverbally expressive when communicating, but it's a deliberate choice, not an instinct, so if I'm thinking about something else or unaware someone is looking, I'm pretty much blank. Apparently NT's often interpret blank as anger. Silly NT's.

Same.

No, I don't think so. But I know I look repulsive when I'm frowning.

lol, yeah, pretty much-my bf is always asking why I'm smiling or why I'm giggling for no good reason-and thanks about the avatar I think it's a lot less creepy than the old one... lol