Casual Racism on Dating Sites

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There seems to be a lot of buzz about casual racism on dating sites. Being biracial, I'd have to see this as acceptable because I feel people should simply tell the truth when it comes to such a personal situation like who you are willing to date. I couldn't tell you the pain I felt as a young adult when my boyfriends at the moment told me, "I love you but I can't bring you home." Some people date for a variety of reasons such as getting sex, being social, looking for a marriage partner, etc... If you marry, you marry the family - in most cases! I got married twice to the same guy - a white guy - wealth,scotch/irish american - only child. His family wanted no part of me not even their grandchild who looked VERY white. He asked me for a divorce which I happily gave. 12 years later, both his parents had died. He proposed again and I accepted. Now, we have another boy who is dark like me. I see how differently people in general treated my first son as opposed to how they treated the younger. Everyone should live by this motto: If you don't want to date me, then I don't want to date you! I'll share how I was able to get this old white lady off my back in a K-mart store years ago. No offense to white people being that my father was white, poor,irish-catholic. She was staring in an evil way, muttering, "Why can't she go be with a black boy?" I said, "Look lady, just be grateful he's not YOUR son!" She shut up quick.

That was something----that you accepted the guy's proposal after he screwed you before.

So we learn here that : Money > Racism and racist family.

Money is even more important that religion to religious people.

For example, I swear there's more accepted interfaith marriages between Christian Lebanese/Syrians and Muslim Gulf Arabs than between Christian Lebanese/Syrians and Muslim Lebanese/Syrians.....despite the fact that the Gulf Arabs are generally by far far far far more strictly and radically muslims and by far less culturally egalitarian.

Why? Because the Gulf Arabs are very rich, that's why - so when a Gulf Arab proposes to a christian lebanese, her parents are suddenly like Jesus and Mohammad are best friends and "we are all Abrahamic" - but if a local muslim comes to the same family to propose, they would reject him for being of different faith.


And there's probably more accepted interfaith marriages between foreign UN officers/officials and local muslim locals too, some of them are from hardcore hezbollah southern families (who would never accept a christian local)....for the same reason: Money and prestige effect. So funny.

So OP are you gonna be a honest mother and teach yours son to marry women who want them for money and not to go for women who truly love them?

Or....oh, you want them to go for rich women as well....to increase the already high wealth?

Marrying a racist for his money sounds far worse than casual racism.

Poor example to set for your child.

^ But even if you didn't marry him, that money would still belong to your sons, they're still his sons too either way.

Or is there some weird law in your country that I don't know about?

Sorry...I am not trying to troll or anything but... there are things that I just can't digest, so you do realize that your man is racist against your race and yet you married him twice? for the money? Am I getting that right?

I mean if it comes down to it I'd prefer someone be open if they're going to reject a person on the basis of race, so a person wouldn't have to face the humiliation of meeting them only to be rejected because they are such and such race....but of course racism is not a good thing, but probably a good thing to mention if race factors into who you'd date of course that could be a turn off to people of the same race who find it distasteful.

I don't quite understand how racism can be quantified on a dating site. If you don't receive a lot of inquiries, is it normal to assume it is because of racism?

I use online dating sites and if I message someone and he doesn't message me back, I don't assume it is because of racism. It could be for any number of reasons - he thinks I am unattractive, or thinks my profile is too nerdy, or doesn't like my body type, etc.

Am I missing something? I guess there were probably men that were not interested because of race, but it seems illogical to assume that is always the case. And even so, I don't know why people are so agitated by it. How can you be so affected by random racists in cyberspace that you don't know and probably never will? It would be different if it were someone that you knew.

Watchu talkin' bout, Boo?