Suspected ASD Used as a Weapon?

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I am undiagnosed, and my parents completely deny that I could have an ASD. However, a younger sibling has recently started saying that they think I have 'social problems' (as in an ASD-like disorder). This is done in a negative way, when having an argument, as in 'You know, I think you might have some sort of... social problem. You really don't know how to interact with other people,' or, 'Mum, I think FandomConnection might have some sort of social problem. She's really stupid when it comes to understanding people.'

It's ironic that a younger sibling should pick up on something parents in the medical profession have missed/denied. I'm glad my sibling corroborates my suspicions, but the way they bring it up (negative, used as a weapon, as if it is a terrible thing to have) is upsetting.

Do you think I can use my sibling's observations to help convince my parents? Do you think I should talk to my sibling about it? Suggestions please.

Your parents deny you have X.

But your sibling implies that you have X as an insult?


Wow.

The next time your sibling does that maybe you could get in her face, and demand that she put her money where her mouth is, and....prove it....to mom and dad....or never say it again.

Wait, you mean you have been to a doctor and been tested and they said you were fine so therefore your parents think you're fine?

No. I've never been evaluated for ASD, or even seen a psychologist/counsellor for any reason. I have talked to my parents about difficulties socially (I don't understand how people relate to each other/facial expressions/chatting etc.) and they denied it straight away: 'You aren't like that!' and 'You just need to try harder. Stop acting stupid.' Both parents are medical professionals (so don't think they need specialist advice).

Or maybe the sibling has just overheard about your ''fear'' of having ASD and thinks it's cool to use as an insult?

I don't 'fear' having ASD, and my sibling wasn't there the one time I spoke about it with my parents (we were in the car). The belief that I have 'social problems' is completely my younger sibling's idea. I would welcome a diagnosis: my parents might stop insisting that I am just badly behaved, selfish, or 'acting stupid'. They think there's something I can do to change the way I am ('try harder' etc.).