Anybody here have serious anger issues?

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14 May 2007, 1:50 pm

I get angry over the littlest things, like if my shoes aren't lined up right? or if I text somebody and they dont text me back? or if my radio doesnt work? I mean I don't just get angry, I get this horrible rage. I don't know what to do about it. I get mad at my boyfriend sometimes for no reason, and I try to explain to him, that I do hold alot of my anger in so I don't get in trouble with society, and when I see him, like the littlest thing will send me over the edge. Like the other day I had to go play mini golf for mothers day, and it was ok, until we bumped into somebody we knew and they lean right over to hug and kiss you, and then after i do bad at mini golf everybody wanted to walk the boardwalk and people were like bumping into me like crazy, it drove me insane, but I didn't say or do anything about it, and when I saw my boyfriend I went bizerk and took it on him. I told my family I need a new punching bag, because my last one I broke and the stuff inside came out, I just beat it until there was no more haha. I had somebody tell me once that I have anger inside of me, that its almost like a Tiger going after its prey. Which was my nickname when I was a baby. Anyways my question is does anybody else have serious anger issues like me? How do you cope?



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14 May 2007, 1:53 pm

Duct tape your punching bag, it'll save you money. :D


Nah, I can relate. I don't have a rage, but I feel like being picked on as a kid gave me some temper issues.



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14 May 2007, 1:55 pm

I do but i do pretty well at keeping it locked away most of the time , although the people around me seem to disagree , i often wonder how they would cope if all the anger was let out .



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14 May 2007, 1:57 pm

I did as a kid. Mostly from being touched. It should be easier once you understand what and why it makes you mad.



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14 May 2007, 2:00 pm

Yea I was picked on as a kid too. I was also abused very badly, like being put in cardboard boxes and thrown down stairs, or tied up with rope then thrown in my lagoon. I guess in a way I was tortured, so I think thats part of the reason I have a lot of anger, but when I was adopted and brought to america, the lady told my family that I have a temper, and 5month olds usually dont have tempers, but after they took me in, they realized I did whenever they held me I would try to scratch their eyes out and bite them. Everybody also thinks I was a victim due to Baby Shaking Syndrom also. I don't know, but I want a punching bag thats on miss congeniality that looks like a person, but its like $300



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14 May 2007, 2:03 pm

I have anger, or rage, issues too. I think this a form of extreme meltdown. I am trying to find the things that cause these ragemelts, so to avoid some of them. am trying to learn how such a melt feels as I approach it so that I can back out of the situation before melting to rage. My plan is fewer raging melts - and more catatonic ones.


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14 May 2007, 2:04 pm

I'll be nice! :D



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14 May 2007, 2:07 pm

babies can have tempers , my son who was diagnosed autistic hated to be held even from the first weeks he would scream and scream until he was put down , my daughter hated to have her nappy changed and it often took 3 people to try and get a nappy on her and a babygrow on before she could get the nappy off . she still has a foul temper at 10 needless to say neither of them have suffered any form of abuse or ever been shaken , they are both much loved , my son isnt temperamental any more and hes 8 . I think its genetic i am oversensitive to lots of things even tho often i dont show it , or at least not as often as i am irritated :) .



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14 May 2007, 2:19 pm

natty wrote:
babies can have tempers , my son who was diagnosed autistic hated to be held even from the first weeks he would scream and scream until he was put down , my daughter hated to have her nappy changed and it often took 3 people to try and get a nappy on her and a babygrow on before she could get the nappy off . she still has a foul temper at 10 needless to say neither of them have suffered any form of abuse or ever been shaken , they are both much loved , my son isnt temperamental any more and hes 8 . I think its genetic i am oversensitive to lots of things even tho often i dont show it , or at least not as often as i am irritated :) .


Yea I was the same way I hated being held, I would scream, try to scratch ppl in the eyes, if they kissed me, I would try to bite their nose. I was only maybe 7lbs at the age of 5months, and doing all of that.



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14 May 2007, 2:27 pm

I used to have temper issues when i was a kid.
I'd have these anger tantrums where i kept beating the wall and went berzerk.
I remember how it seemed something in my mind blocked any rational thinking.
It would take me an hour to cool down before i got back to my sences.
The weird thing was conciously knowing i was overreacting but yet i was powerless to stop it.
I also was told i bit people when i was really young.

Nowadays i'm like the most calm person though.
I have not been angry for years.



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14 May 2007, 2:28 pm

Yes. I think I'll probably end up in jail or a mental instutution (I actualy had to be hospialed because I kept beating up my mom when I was little) in a few years.

Everyone knew there was something wrong with me from the start. When I was a baby I didn't cry, I would scream. My mom swears she though I would make everyone deaf. She also says if you took it personaly I was a very mean baby.



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14 May 2007, 3:25 pm

I used to definatly, when I was young (up until the age of 7) I used to bite people when they annoyed me. :oops:
Now I am way more likely to hurt myself than anyone else. I still get angry a lot but it is more just fustration at myself.



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14 May 2007, 3:41 pm

I can relate to this one: If my computer is "acting up" against me, or I think the #(%"#¤! ! traffic is moving too slow (and I don't drive anything; I go by bus or train to and from work and other places outside walking distance), I can get seriously p*ssed off. In the bus I can keep it locked down, but on more than one occation I've been yelling and screaming at a mindless computer because the administrative system (in wich i HAVE to account for what I've been doing at work that day) is behaving like some over-bureaucratic nit-picking #@%#! !!

On the bus, though, there's a simple remedy: I play Sudoku, or the Yahtzee game in my cellular phone, or do something else that'll "absorb" me far too much to worry about the rush hour going on outside the bus...

Even though I don't believe in astrology, I pass myself on as the perfect example of the fierce temperament of Aries... :P



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14 May 2007, 3:51 pm

Honestly, I have a serious problem with this myself but only when I'm around my mother.


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14 May 2007, 4:06 pm

I tell people that it's hard to piss me off. In reality, it's very easy to piss me off. It's just that it usually goes away so quickly that no one notices. I usually logic myself out of being mad. The times when I have a real reason for being angry, and the person doesn't make amends, are the problem. Then it just festers and drives me crazy until it finally fades away.

When I was a kid, I threw tantrums all the time. Sometimes the only way to get me to calm down was to sit on me. I was pretty horrible at home. At school I didn't make a peep; I was extremely quiet and only had one friend who was just as quiet as I was. I guess I released all my anger that accumulated at school on my family at home.