My GF is Crazy V3.72 Beta Version

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Ok, the name of the thread is a bit humorous as I've made multiple threads on this topic that have been done to death, and they're all buried. I've actually managed to go a good while before making another one, mostly because things have been alright with my and my gf. Well, she's relapsed again into hysterical nonsense and it's getting old. We saw each other last night and we're seeing each other again tomorrow, and because we're not seeing each other today she decided to cry and say that I don't love her. I told her she should see a therapist since that's a load of BS.

Long story short, the choice has once again come up as to whether I should stay in a relationship given that that's something so many aspires want and I even wanted for so long, or to end it and possibly end up being single forever. I mean, part of me wants to try and get a girl who's rational, but rational girls don't seem to date aspies, so it's a catch 22. Maybe I'm either stuck with someone crazy or no one. Any advice?

As always though I'm willing to take suggestions on how to make things work. Ending the relationship has always been a last resort option and I have yet to press that red button. I feel like I'm running out of options though.

Well, call me one of the fairly rational women dating an aspie who doesn't think a couple needs to be attached at the hip to be dating.

You might have already done this, but my suggestion in case you have not done it, is to be very firm with her and say something like what you've just said. That her hysterics are nonsense and you're tired of it. That you don't want to date a child and you're willing to work through this as long as she knocks this silliness off. Then hold to that.

If she's one of those that you can't talk some sense to, then I don't know what to tell you. Some people never change.

Want me to punch her for you? If it was me, I'd be lonely if my boyfriend wasn't seeing me everyday, but I understand that he would need his time also. Its just life. So I'd distract myself with something. Does she have any hobbies she could do to entertain herself whilst your busy?

If it's a rescuing problem than it sound like something needs to be done whether thats sitting down and asking her why she is getting so upset and to explain to you clearly what the problem is (maybe other things are bothering her you might not have noticed and she has taken that as not caring or something silly)

If that doesn't work maybe you shold question whether you would be happier not in the relationship. Staying with someone because your frightenew there is no one else is very unhealthy

She might also have autism as she sounds a lot like me, but I've learnt to cope with my excess emotions. I generally let them out, sulk then recover apologise to anyone I happen to offend. I guess its like a meltdown in a sense and it just has to come out for me to function properly again.

I came here cos of the thread title.
I have nothing constructive to add to this topic.

She just seems immature, bored and selfish. Great combination for a toxic partner. She seems like she doesn't even know how to be in a proper relationship honestly. If she can't be fair and let you have your own space then what's the point? If she won't listen to logical reasoning from you then there really is no point. Spending time with her constantly is quite crazy in itself and that's how you make attraction die rather quickly.

I think you should sit her down and be very blunt with her and tell her if she doesn't change this childish behaviour or you don't see an improvement within the next few weeks, like go to a doctor then you can't do it anymore because it's affecting you mentally and it's not healthy. Put your foot down and don't let some crazy b***h control you.

If you've managed to attract someone you can do it again, but it really is better being alone than with someone completely batshit mental who just causes problems constantly and is a strain on your mental health, especially while you're working and have responsibilities. Does she even have any responsibilities?

You need to write a list down of pro's and cons, do it on pen and paper so you can get a proper feel for it to make a better decision, if there's way more cons then it's not worth it. You're the one that has to decide because she quite clearly can't make proper adult decisions from the looks of it.

Sorry if any of that sounds harsh, I'm just being real with you.

There are plenty of people out there who have problems and are not crazy. My husband has several disabilities in his brain and he isn't mental and crazy. He doesn't act that way when he doesn't get his way or act manipulative. That sounds a lot like BPD. When they don't get their way and when they get over emotional because they feel them too strongly, they can't deal with their emotions so they react the way they do. That can go from putting you down like telling you how selfish you are or how self centered you are or how you are abusive or don't care about them, etc. That is something that small children do but the difference is they grow out of it. Borderlines are like toddlers. Not saying your ex is one. But I think they can learn to react to them appropriately but I read it takes DBT to do it because it helps the become more aware of themselves and their behavior. But it's a matter of if they want to do it and want to get help to better themselves and be better people.

I really agree with League_Girl, it does sound like BPD but mixed with something else.