I wish men had it easier dating online

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25 Jan 2017, 3:23 pm

I'm feeling really discouraged now because a friend of mine who is a girl downloaded a dating app and was talking to a guy. She's in the same set as me (no job or no car) yet she had a guy reply to her. Makes me really wish I actually was a woman instead (of nothing else, they have an easier time with this stuff). I'm heartbroken and suffer a lot because of it. I'm not suicidal, but sometimes I tell myself I want to die because I can't escape it.

I wish it was completely the other way around, to be honest. Men should be protesting in the streets about this.

I feel so alone. Mom doesn't even want to talk about what gets me upset, or she is in denial. I wish my parents weren't so out of touch, even though they claim they have my best interests.



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25 Jan 2017, 3:30 pm

It is what biology dictates unfortunately



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26 Jan 2017, 4:13 am

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I'm feeling really discouraged now because a friend of mine who is a girl downloaded a dating app and was talking to a guy. She's in the same set as me (no job or no car) yet she had a guy reply to her. Makes me really wish I actually was a woman instead (of nothing else, they have an easier time with this stuff). I'm heartbroken and suffer a lot because of it. I'm not suicidal, but sometimes I tell myself I want to die because I can't escape it.

Unfortunately you can't do much about others' expectations, but you can improve yourself. It's not easy to find a decent job, but I'm sure that you can do it.



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26 Jan 2017, 6:13 am

Yeah, but I need it right now, and I mean now. I'm not really waiting until I go back to school.



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26 Jan 2017, 8:15 am

http://alycevayleauthor.com/2013/06/06/ ... look-hawt/
The study also found that 75% of a woman’s physical attractiveness to men is determined by her BMI.

Yeah, if you were a girl would just need to do a little dieting to maintain a bmi of 20.



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26 Jan 2017, 10:24 am

Yeah, if you were a girl would just need to do a little dieting to maintain a bmi of 20.

If all you wanted was sex.

Also, meeting a guy from online can be pretty dangerous for a girl sometimes.



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26 Jan 2017, 10:30 am

Online dating was flawed from the start.

For it to work would requre women to initiate contact at least 50% of the time, and that doesn't happen, because women are not as pragmatic as men... women are much less likely to chuck thousands of years of traditon out the window and say "heck with the rules, I'm going to pick my own man instead of waiting for him to find me".

It's not biology (in case you haven't noticed, we no longer live in caves and hunt mammoths), it's social conditioning.



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26 Jan 2017, 5:53 pm

I actually think both parties should have a job before dating. Dating is expensive.


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26 Jan 2017, 5:54 pm

BTDT wrote:
http://alycevayleauthor.com/2013/06/06/what-is-the-most-attractive-bmi-know-what-you-should-weigh-to-look-hawt/
The study also found that 75% of a woman’s physical attractiveness to men is determined by her BMI.

Yeah, if you were a girl would just need to do a little dieting to maintain a bmi of 20.


I want a Hunny who has a high BMI - all muscle. :mrgreen:


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26 Jan 2017, 6:42 pm

Jacoby wrote:
It is what biology dictates unfortunately
This is not true. Women are also attracted to men. Women also get turned on by men. Women also enjoy sex and other forms of affection. Women also get lonely and feel forlorn when they're involuntarily single.


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26 Jan 2017, 6:49 pm

K_Kelly wrote:
I'm feeling really discouraged now because a friend of mine who is a girl downloaded a dating app and was talking to a guy. She's in the same set as me (no job or no car) yet she had a guy reply to her. Makes me really wish I actually was a woman instead (of nothing else, they have an easier time with this stuff). I'm heartbroken and suffer a lot because of it. I'm not suicidal, but sometimes I tell myself I want to die because I can't escape it.

Guys are attracted to appearances. That gives the ladies the advantage if they look a certain way.
The ladies are attracted to confident-types (i.e.: guys who rarely seem to be worried about life-challenges).

You need to change your methods. Most so-called on-line dating venues are typically very full of HIGH percentages of males contrasted against very low percentages of real females (i.e.: a lot of them are automated robots or some kind of devious marketer trying to prey upon your desperation to scam you out of the scarce amount of wealth you might have if any). Really. Seriously. You need to think about that for a moment.

Why not we team up as brothers and move to Topeka, Kansas, together ? Wait, wait, before I continue...

<Covers up NurseAngela's eyes and plugs her ears so that she does not hear my following statements>

Okay, now that I can tell you this in private, Topeka has a guy-friendly demographic. Yes, seriously, the female-population over there out-numbers the male-population ! And not by a mere tiny margin either. Let me quote the Wikipedia that cites this information from a 2010 census...

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Topeka,_Kansas wrote:

You see ? That number comes close to being able to compete with even the Ukraine !
Also, I need to tell you something else, a lot of the girls that I encountered during my time of active-employment were the types that were single, beautiful, attractive, and most of them did not like to use computers !

I am not joking about this either. Let me tell you guys another little story... a man once wrote a book, who was an entrepreneur, and he had two friends, each with a different web-site. One of those web-sites had a million visitors a month whilst the other had only a hundred visitors a day (equivalent to 3000 visitors monthly). This entrepreneur got his friend with the million visitors web-site to agree to advertise his book on his web-site.

Want to guess how many sales were generated after a full month of advertising ? ONE.
Then he decided to try advertising on the other site, one that was on-topic with the information contained in his book with what he was trying to sell, and the result turned out to be (according to him) a 37% conversion-rate.

That one time when I passed through the Topeka-area, less than an hour had passed, and I had already been looked at by at least three different, very beautiful young girls who looked and smiled at me on their initiative, and I would even go so far as to say that their on-average physical-beauty is able to even be competition to Eastern-European females !

Let us become buddies, move to Topeka or Holton or somewhere near or around that area in Kansas together, perhaps even recruit other brothers to help join me/us on my/our mission(s) ! I have a few more months or so before my contract here in South Dakota expires, and I hope I can get a car by then (previous one broke down on me one day), I can teach you guys how to train/condition yourselves to be attractive to the females, and I can get back into living my own life instead of having all of this interference into my life from my mother never being able to do anything herself and of course the Police-State USA of the corrupt County of Fall River over here in sheeple-ville South Dakota (good god, this ignorant flag-waving «veteran» town, I tell you, they still think Putin is a bad guy).

<uncovers NurseAngela's eyes and unplugs her ears now that I have finished my negotations>

How about it ? All of us can pool our resources together, perhaps buy our own property, then build our own custom-designed guild-house. All I ask is that you guys keep the place neat, tidy, and clean and organised. We can decide what kinds of rules, ahem, I mean guide-lines need to be set in place for compatible guild-membership. Like, I do not smoke nor drink alcoholic-beverages nor do any drugs so I would prefer the same of my guild-members, I prefer to recycle anything that can be recycled, and to have the place be highly organised (such that it might even look like a professional office-products retail-store level of organisation). Any other guys who come across this post of mine are welcome to P-M me to try and make arrangements (well, I guess I can accept girls as well to join our project, but I have yet to finish laying out the expectations and guide-lines for my guild-charter, which I shall then later on upload onto the guild-section of my web-site, and when I say guild-section, I am talking about we actually having an actual real-world guild, not one of those on-line guilds that are meant for multi-player computer-games).

nurseangela wrote:
I want a Hunny who has a high BMI - all muscle. :mrgreen:

This would fall into the category of Body-Builders or healthy Kung Fu Masters.


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26 Jan 2017, 7:27 pm

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K_Kelly wrote:
I'm feeling really discouraged now because a friend of mine who is a girl downloaded a dating app and was talking to a guy. She's in the same set as me (no job or no car) yet she had a guy reply to her. Makes me really wish I actually was a woman instead (of nothing else, they have an easier time with this stuff). I'm heartbroken and suffer a lot because of it. I'm not suicidal, but sometimes I tell myself I want to die because I can't escape it.

Guys are attracted to appearances. That gives the ladies the advantage if they look a certain way.
The ladies are attracted to confident-types (i.e.: guys who rarely seem to be worried about life-challenges).

You need to change your methods. Most so-called on-line dating venues are typically very full of HIGH percentages of males contrasted against very low percentages of real females (i.e.: a lot of them are automated robots or some kind of devious marketer trying to prey upon your desperation to scam you out of the scarce amount of wealth you might have if any). Really. Seriously. You need to think about that for a moment.

Why not we team up as brothers and move to Topeka, Kansas, together ? Wait, wait, before I continue...

<Covers up NurseAngela's eyes and plugs her ears so that she does not hear my following statements>

Okay, now that I can tell you this in private, Topeka has a guy-friendly demographic. Yes, seriously, the female-population over there out-numbers the male-population ! And not by a mere tiny margin either. Let me quote the Wikipedia that cites this information from a 2010 census...

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Topeka,_Kansas wrote:

You see ? That number comes close to being able to compete with even the Ukraine !
Also, I need to tell you something else, a lot of the girls that I encountered during my time of active-employment were the types that were single, beautiful, attractive, and most of them did not like to use computers !

I am not joking about this either. Let me tell you guys another little story... a man once wrote a book, who was an entrepreneur, and he had two friends, each with a different web-site. One of those web-sites had a million visitors a month whilst the other had only a hundred visitors a day (equivalent to 3000 visitors monthly). This entrepreneur got his friend with the million visitors web-site to agree to advertise his book on his web-site.

Want to guess how many sales were generated after a full month of advertising ? ONE.
Then he decided to try advertising on the other site, one that was on-topic with the information contained in his book with what he was trying to sell, and the result turned out to be (according to him) a 37% conversion-rate.

That one time when I passed through the Topeka-area, less than an hour had passed, and I had already been looked at by at least three different, very beautiful young girls who looked and smiled at me on their initiative, and I would even go so far as to say that their on-average physical-beauty is able to even be competition to Eastern-European females !

Let us become buddies, move to Topeka or Holton or somewhere near or around that area in Kansas together, perhaps even recruit other brothers to help join me/us on my/our mission(s) ! I have a few more months or so before my contract here in South Dakota expires, and I hope I can get a car by then (previous one broke down on me one day), I can teach you guys how to train/condition yourselves to be attractive to the females, and I can get back into living my own life instead of having all of this interference into my life from my mother never being able to do anything herself and of course the Police-State USA of the corrupt County of Fall River over here in sheeple-ville South Dakota (good god, this ignorant flag-waving «veteran» town, I tell you, they still think Putin is a bad guy).

<uncovers NurseAngela's eyes and unplugs her ears now that I have finished my negotations>

How about it ? All of us can pool our resources together, perhaps buy our own property, then build our own custom-designed guild-house. All I ask is that you guys keep the place neat, tidy, and clean and organised. We can decide what kinds of rules, ahem, I mean guide-lines need to be set in place for compatible guild-membership. Like, I do not smoke nor drink alcoholic-beverages nor do any drugs so I would prefer the same of my guild-members, I prefer to recycle anything that can be recycled, and to have the place be highly organised (such that it might even look like a professional office-products retail-store level of organisation). Any other guys who come across this post of mine are welcome to P-M me to try and make arrangements (well, I guess I can accept girls as well to join our project, but I have yet to finish laying out the expectations and guide-lines for my guild-charter, which I shall then later on upload onto the guild-section of my web-site, and when I say guild-section, I am talking about we actually having an actual real-world guild, not one of those on-line guilds that are meant for multi-player computer-games).

nurseangela wrote:
I want a Hunny who has a high BMI - all muscle. :mrgreen:

This would fall into the category of Body-Builders or healthy Kung Fu Masters.



That's funny. For a minute I wasn't able to hear or see anything. Anyway, what is the big whoopee with Topeka?
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26 Jan 2017, 8:11 pm

The larger the population the easier it is for me to quickly get a full-time or over-time job.
I am not into small-town life-style unless I live practically right next to the post-office to do on-line business.

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That's funny. For a minute I wasn't able to hear or see anything. Anyway, what is the big whoopee with Topeka?
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29 Jan 2017, 2:26 am

nurseangela wrote:
I actually think both parties should have a job before dating. Dating is expensive.


No arguments there. When I see women say that they want a man with a job, it's due to one of two reasons:
A) they want a breadwinner at best, or a sugar daddy at worst.
B) they don't want to be paying someone else's way.

That said, I don't have the best of luck, even with a good job, my own place, and a vehicle. For every woman that initiates contact, at least 10 men do.



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29 Jan 2017, 3:50 am

I want a woman with a job. We could combine our incomes and invest in our future.


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