Do women dislike men with thinning hair?

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15 Apr 2017, 11:29 pm

I am constantly wondering why women don't show any interest in me and why I have been turned down for dates by them as well. I sometimes wonder if my thinning hair makes me look unattractive. The men on my mother's side of the family lost their frontal hair in their early adulthood years which makes them all look a little older than they really are. Both of my brothers lack this hair thinning but I inherited the gene for it. Both my grandmother and my mother said they hoped I wouldn't inherit the gene but it happened. I used to have a full head of hair and now I look like I am prematurely aging. When others see pictures of me before the thinning, they tell me I look really young in them. When they see me now, I don't look so young anymore (I am 28, going on 29).

I've tried using minoxidil to see if I could stimulate my hair follicles but it didn't seem to work when I tried it. My mother also once gave me some medicine that did start to work but it contained estrogen and made me develop more feminine looking breast tissue. The swelling went down after I got off the medicine but even before that I had gynecomostia and I still have "man boobs", probably another thing that has stacked the deck against me. For a while my mother wanted me to undergo a hair transplant but I rejected the idea due to the time it would take as well as the fact they can lead to random bleeding.

I fear that even if I become more confident (A huge struggle for me), any potential girlfriend will reject me because of my thinning hair. Do women dislike thinning hair or is it just my fear taking hold of me?



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15 Apr 2017, 11:41 pm

It's more about your fear of rejection than women disliking you for a particular flaw.
Because obviously women are individuals with different likes and dislikes and attracted to different things in a potential partner.
If you start thinking that women don't like you because of X, that's only going to erode your confidence further.


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15 Apr 2017, 11:57 pm

Raleigh wrote:
It's more about your fear of rejection than women disliking you for a particular flaw.
Because obviously women are individuals with different likes and dislikes and attracted to different things in a potential partner.
If you start thinking that women don't like you because of X, that's only going to erode your confidence further.


A full head of hair looks nice sure...but I couldn't see rejecting a guy who doesn't have that if they are compatible in many other ways. My boyfriend has thinning hair and it doesn't make him any less attractive to me...and I've always tended to find a full head of long hair attractive on guys moreso than short or shaved hair, still do but didn't make it a non-negotiable trait.

Also though I find the actor Jason Statham attractive and pretty sure he has thinning hair...he usually has it buzzed to almost bald but I saw him in one movie where he had his hair grown out more and certainly looked like he had a receding hairline.


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16 Apr 2017, 12:28 am

My mother and grandmother both said they were upset I inherited the thinning gene. That's partly why I associated it with being unattractive. All my uncles married despite it but I have fears that in today's culture it makes me look like I am prematurely aging. I used to get told "Really? You look young for your age!" but I don't get that anymore. Even when I looked younger I didn't get any indication girls found me attractive.



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16 Apr 2017, 1:00 am

i don't place high value on hair but i'm only one woman.

you could always shave it all off.
that look can be attractive, i think.



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16 Apr 2017, 1:11 am

seaweed wrote:
i don't place high value on hair but i'm only one woman.

you could always shave it all off.
that look can be attractive, i think.


I've been suggested that but I don't think it would look right for me. I don't really have the right kind of body for baldness. How so? Well, I have a double chin, man boobs, a stomach that sticks out unless I suck it in, and fat on my butt. Oddly, my forearms are thin. I've tried exercising for years but my body refuses to respond to my efforts. That's probably another reason why women don't express attraction to me.



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16 Apr 2017, 1:28 am

Marknis wrote:
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i don't place high value on hair but i'm only one woman.

you could always shave it all off.
that look can be attractive, i think.


I've been suggested that but I don't think it would look right for me. I don't really have the right kind of body for baldness. How so? Well, I have a double chin, man boobs, a stomach that sticks out unless I suck it in, and fat on my butt. Oddly, my forearms are thin. I've tried exercising for years but my body refuses to respond to my efforts. That's probably another reason why women don't express attraction to me.


ah okay i see how you mean.
i wouldn't look good bald either haha.

but you know, some women really like older men..



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16 Apr 2017, 12:35 pm

seaweed wrote:
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i don't place high value on hair but i'm only one woman.

you could always shave it all off.
that look can be attractive, i think.


I've been suggested that but I don't think it would look right for me. I don't really have the right kind of body for baldness. How so? Well, I have a double chin, man boobs, a stomach that sticks out unless I suck it in, and fat on my butt. Oddly, my forearms are thin. I've tried exercising for years but my body refuses to respond to my efforts. That's probably another reason why women don't express attraction to me.


ah okay i see how you mean.
i wouldn't look good bald either haha.

but you know, some women really like older men..


Older as in middle age or retirement age? I don't want to wait until either.
Oddly, I have been told I am "too old" for younger girls (18-mid 20's) but when I was in that age range, I'd see/hear some girls say they preferred older men almost to the point it seemed like they didn't want young guys anymore. The double messages I've gotten have really driven me crazy.



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16 Apr 2017, 1:15 pm

Perusing some dating and hookup sites, I've seen plenty of girls 18-22 demanding guys be 35+. Sets of some gold-digger/sugardaddy alarms, but still.

As for OT; not everyone can pull of the shaved head look, and being overweight isn't in your favour there. If I were you, I'd focus on losing weight and getting in better shape. Most things that can be done about the hair won't help enough to make it not noticable, and from an attraction point of view you'll look better if you have the confidence to wear it honestly.


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16 Apr 2017, 1:47 pm

Marknis wrote:
seaweed wrote:
Marknis wrote:
seaweed wrote:
i don't place high value on hair but i'm only one woman.

you could always shave it all off.
that look can be attractive, i think.


I've been suggested that but I don't think it would look right for me. I don't really have the right kind of body for baldness. How so? Well, I have a double chin, man boobs, a stomach that sticks out unless I suck it in, and fat on my butt. Oddly, my forearms are thin. I've tried exercising for years but my body refuses to respond to my efforts. That's probably another reason why women don't express attraction to me.


ah okay i see how you mean.
i wouldn't look good bald either haha.

but you know, some women really like older men..


Older as in middle age or retirement age? I don't want to wait until either.
Oddly, I have been told I am "too old" for younger girls (18-mid 20's) but when I was in that age range, I'd see/hear some girls say they preferred older men almost to the point it seemed like they didn't want young guys anymore. The double messages I've gotten have really driven me crazy.


i dont know, i can't generalize what women want. maybe that's what you're trying to do and that's why the double messages are confusing?

i'm 22 and the oldest person i've been with is 34 (i don't care about age). i don't think that kind of age gap is uncommon. screw whoever said you're too old for younger women; it's just not true.

a girl friend of mine says she's into "dad bod" which apparently is a thing?
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.p ... =Dad%20bod

i dont know how important the "dad" part of "dad bod" is, lol

but maybe this can show that embracing the look you have might not be as terrible of an option as you think.



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16 Apr 2017, 2:42 pm

seaweed wrote:
Marknis wrote:
seaweed wrote:
Marknis wrote:
seaweed wrote:
i don't place high value on hair but i'm only one woman.

you could always shave it all off.
that look can be attractive, i think.


I've been suggested that but I don't think it would look right for me. I don't really have the right kind of body for baldness. How so? Well, I have a double chin, man boobs, a stomach that sticks out unless I suck it in, and fat on my butt. Oddly, my forearms are thin. I've tried exercising for years but my body refuses to respond to my efforts. That's probably another reason why women don't express attraction to me.


ah okay i see how you mean.
i wouldn't look good bald either haha.

but you know, some women really like older men..


Older as in middle age or retirement age? I don't want to wait until either.
Oddly, I have been told I am "too old" for younger girls (18-mid 20's) but when I was in that age range, I'd see/hear some girls say they preferred older men almost to the point it seemed like they didn't want young guys anymore. The double messages I've gotten have really driven me crazy.


i dont know, i can't generalize what women want. maybe that's what you're trying to do and that's why the double messages are confusing?

i'm 22 and the oldest person i've been with is 34 (i don't care about age). i don't think that kind of age gap is uncommon. screw whoever said you're too old for younger women; it's just not true.

a girl friend of mine says she's into "dad bod" which apparently is a thing?
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.p ... =Dad%20bod

i dont know how important the "dad" part of "dad bod" is, lol

but maybe this can show that embracing the look you have might not be as terrible of an option as you think.


I live in the Bible Belt and gender roles are strongly enforced here. Men are expected to be iron pumping alpha bad boys and women are expected to be silent subservient good girls. I don't necessarily think exercise is bad, I just think it's unfair to have your manliness guaged by the amount of muscle you have. I don't mind if women want to read or engage in arts; in fact, I would love a nerdy or geeky girlfriend. But I don't understand why so many women here feel like they have to limit themselves to be considered attractive to men. A lot of them think they are only good for clothes shopping, cooking, cellphone talking, gossiping with their friends, and expecting men to protect them even when their lives are endangered. A lot of women here also can't bear the idea of dating a non-Christian man, even if they are open to pre-marital sex. It's weird here, I know.

I would prefer a girl in her 20's but I wouldn't mind dating a woman in her 30's if she was nerdy or geeky. I sometimes also have the fantasy of being with an 18 year girl who sees me as an experienced older man but I can't hold my breath on it since I am isolated from youth culture. I sometimes get these fears that I'll have to settle for a grandmother age woman since I have had more women that age call me attractive than younger ones. :| I just couldn't do that. I don't find elderly women attractive and they tend to not share any common interests with me.



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16 Apr 2017, 3:38 pm

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I live in the Bible Belt and gender roles are strongly enforced here. Men are expected to be iron pumping alpha bad boys and women are expected to be silent subservient good girls. I don't necessarily think exercise is bad, I just think it's unfair to have your manliness guaged by the amount of muscle you have. I don't mind if women want to read or engage in arts; in fact, I would love a nerdy or geeky girlfriend. But I don't understand why so many women here feel like they have to limit themselves to be considered attractive to men. A lot of them think they are only good for clothes shopping, cooking, cellphone talking, gossiping with their friends, and expecting men to protect them even when their lives are endangered. A lot of women here also can't bear the idea of dating a non-Christian man, even if they are open to pre-marital sex. It's weird here, I know.

I would prefer a girl in her 20's but I wouldn't mind dating a woman in her 30's if she was nerdy or geeky. I sometimes also have the fantasy of being with an 18 year girl who sees me as an experienced older man but I can't hold my breath on it since I am isolated from youth culture. I sometimes get these fears that I'll have to settle for a grandmother age woman since I have had more women that age call me attractive than younger ones. :| I just couldn't do that. I don't find elderly women attractive and they tend to not share any common interests with me.


then your type isn't "a lot of women". have you tried meeting women in nerdier/geekier contexts? maybe thinning hair isn't your problem at all.



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16 Apr 2017, 6:41 pm

No. This woman does not dislike men with thinning hair. I can't speak for all women though because we are all different.



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17 Apr 2017, 11:18 am

Thread Title wrote:
Do women dislike men with thinning hair?

No, they dislike them with their emotions.
They use their thinning hair for other purposes, usually to feel bad about themselves :P

I couldn't resist :twisted:



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17 Apr 2017, 11:23 am

Q: Do women dislike men with thinning hair?
A: Do men dislike women with thinning hair?


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17 Apr 2017, 4:50 pm

I got more attention from the ladies when I shaved my head bald vs when I had the lonely islands of wispy hair.
Been 5 years now. I don't do anything with the attention because I've been married for 17...


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