This is what some women think about when they date you

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Beware guys...beware....

This question came from an ex date, a lady who doesn't even want to have any children.













It's not about his money! Remember that guys, it's not about money! Riiiight.



and yet WP ladies wonder why I have serious trust issues with women.

Most men, in order for them to grow up, need to accept the fact that the vast majority of women are just as vain as the vast majority of men, if not moreso (because finances is much more important to a woman seeking a man than the other way around).

The problem is that too many men look for their mothers inside of women, they have this silly child-like view of romance that they never grew out of. Projecting your mother out of your gf/spouse is a mortal flaw in men, non-blood related women will never love you unconditionally.

If I had a son, I would tell him this one thing:

Humans are animals, that's all that we are, what you see in the animals you will also see in humanity.The sad fact of the matter is that EVERYTHING is vanity.

Some other user in the haven was accusing men that they view women as nothing but pleasure objects for men.

But what about this thing we men face in our everyday dating life? Isn't that pure wallet objectification of men?

smudge... out of all women here; you're the first one who posts in this thread?

How ironic!! .

sugar baby

I don't think it wrong that a man wants a good looking woman and I don't think it wrong that a woman wants a financially stable man. These desires are the result of millions of years of evolution...men wanting young, beautiful women and women wanting strong, resource laden men.

What would be wrong in my opinion is if a man only wanted a woman for her looks and a woman only wanted a man for his money. Except in the instance where both parties were aware of this and were ok with it, as if often the case in relationships of the elite.

My own personal stance is that someone should love the person they are with such that if they became old and ugly, or broke, they would still love them and still want to be with them.

I became disillusioned with the lie of "unconditional" love a while back and it made me pretty depressed. I hope one day we can have genetically engineered humans or sentient AI that are capable of unconditional love.

Many women can be like this, but not all women are like this – so it isn't fair to extend your hate/trust issue to all women. Even because there is some men who also treat woman in this kind of cold bargain, objectifying way – less about money, more about looks, but at the end, all falls under denying people their individuality and confirming ourselves/others to gender stereotypes.

I can't, and I don't even want to, speak for all women, but I'm a very honest person – even if I have weird temper and sometimes act bad – and I'm definitely not interested in my future partner money. Although, I feel really sad that some people can think this stuff about me? I'm from a 3rd world country, and my ex-bf is european, I always felt annoyed because I knew some people was judging me as I only wanted an european passport (yes, there is a lot of women who do it, but assuming that everyone does it is mean).

That's the long post I was referring above, digged from an older thread:

Flip side of the commodification and entitlement that so called 'nice guys' do with women, these shallow women consider themselves as being in a 'league' and are attracted to money/socially connected men. It definitely is dehumanizing, too many people take others for granted and are totally self involved.

Face_of_Boo: I know that many people experience this sort of thing, and that’s why I said what I said.

This is not the first time here that I’ve read “warning” posts like this—and I’m not referring to the one you posted previously--it has given me a strong impression that there’s potentially something being bred here--not deliberately--that could actually do men more harm than good if nothing else is said. As both a woman and one who’s been in a very healthy relationship since 1988, I decided to speak up to help those here who will tell you right up front that they’ve had a hard time attracting and/or keeping girlfriends.

When I spoke of imperfections, I was not talking about gold-digging AT ALL. That is not a “simple imperfection,” as you said; I consider those women to be superficial b!tches. Additionally, the vast majority of women I know don’t think or talk like that—and I have worked almost exclusively with women for a couple of decades. I will continue to find it insulting when anyone--male or female--lumps us together, and will assert my disapproval specifically because, in the minds of those detractors, we're all guilty! Maybe you, yourself, weren't painting me with that broad brush, but how am I to know that--and how are you to know how many non-gold-digging-women are out there if we say nothing? Considering all the malicious stereotypes plastered on women throughout much of history, I will speak up. (Before you pounce, let me say that I try not to overgeneralize anyone, myself. It takes work sometimes, but it's worth it.)

BTW: if you want to talk about being “clear enough,” I will point out that I didn’t even use the word “simple” and that I never would say that men and women don’t have reason to distrust each other. I did, however, say that there’s a balance to be struck between presumed guilt and blind trust; as you yourself said, it’s a problem.

I didn’t post here to piss anyone off; I’m glad that you have a relationship going, and I hope it’s a good one.