Impairment of Happy Expression

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Last edited by Ante on 09 Nov 2005, 4:48 pm, edited 1 time in total.

And so say all of us. If I had a quid for every time I've been told to cheer up I could clear my debts.

Yes, me too.

I get a lot of people who tell me I "you sound *so* excited" sarcastically, when I am just trying to express my interest in something.

Happens with me as well.

I'll add my name to the list.

I'm often told that I look bored, depressed, tired etcetera.

People often ask me, when I'm listening to them talk, whether I'm really interested in what they're saying or not. Or they worry that they're boring me. I suppose I'm giving off boredom clues even though what I'm feeling is neutral or mildly curious. But really, the problem is that I'm so used to responding on automatic pilot that I would have no idea how to admit that I was bored, even if I became aware that I was.

The more I read posts like this the more I'm completely amazed by how much I have in common with you guys, it's like I'm just reading about myself the whole time.

I'd say it makes me really happy but I have trouble expressing happiness even when I feel it so I won't bother but the best thing is - I know you'll understand!

That's the great thing about talking online... I may not be reading your body language, but I'm getting the same message loud and clear from the words you used in the first half of your post. There are so many more ways to communicate happiness than humanity's default practices!

I had some speech therapy a few years back, but I always think I sound either newsreader-y or fake, like over-expressive when I use an 'expressive' voice. I'm always misinterpreted because of my flat tone. Interestingly I was at the vets (who know of my autism and flat voice tone, it's come up in conversation) and I was talking to my puppy in that 'cutesy/clear' voice people use to talk to their pets and the staff said that it sounded more like a 'normal' speech tone/melody, that that's the type of tone I should use with people!

It's so hard to correct voice problems when you don't hear your problems in the first place.

I have to repeat myself a lot when people don't hear or don't understand what I just said. I'm not sure if it's because of flatness, volume, pronunciation or what.... my voice sounds fine from the inside.

And this flat tone makes me telling
a joke impossible. I also find
this flat tone a hinderance because
I may be able to dispense thoughts
freely online, but in person they sound
dull and lack inflection of character and
tone.

Mind you this doesn't discount the
knowledge, it just hinders the deliverence.

Sincerely,
Ghosthunter

P.S....Hi! Pryaxis, where have you been?
I hope you found a job? How it going?
I know you are a busy person but PM
me if you choose.

A flat tone, sad expression always, tend to mumble (but friends telling me when), and that horrendous ADD attention span make socializing an almost out of body experience. Constant autopilot for me. I tend not to think during conversations because I'd end up getting lost in my own thoughts. So my conversations are flat, monotone, mindless, mumbling dribble unless I'm completely focused. If I let my mind wander for a second, stupid words leave my mouth. Oops! Sorry, hijacking thread. See?! This is ADD talking. I have no idea where I plan on going and I never realize it. Accidental improv!! ! I think I'll stop now, sorry.

yeah. I am same way. i got no idea how I am suposed to make my voice sound. I have caught myself mimicing others voices sometimes too. It weird because have to be thinking consiously of what voice sound like. Knowing that how is sounds will depend on how what be said be heard by others. Yet not know what sound to go with words.

For me smiling is a big pain in the ass. When i am REALLY happy it looks like i've barely got a smile. If i try to smile like other people look like when they're smiling i've really got to work the muscles on my face. sometimes i wish i could have a surgery done to tighten the muscles on my face so it was easier to smile big.

Want to know my most common expression? Look at my sign-in name, Absolute Zero.
Mad, happy, sad, frustrated, overjoyed?, ....people can rarely tell and it's fun trying to make them guess because I don't give a crap anymore what they think.

Good.