Are autistics virgins for life??- autistic teen

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Relax. It still happens for most autistics. When and how often depends on the individual's desires as well as functioning level.

Me?

Oral things - 12 years old.
Other things - 21 years old.

Since then? - Sex life of a porn star. I've probably had more sexual partners than the rest of the posters in this thread combined. Such is life for a gay male near a major city with a large gay population who isn't wired for a relationship. Fortunately for me, there's WAY more of a hookup culture in the gay community than a dating culture, so, things work out quite nicely.

But when I was 17 & graduating high school I was anxious and nervous and thought I'd never "do it." Life has changed dramatically since then. Practice makes perfect.. for something I once thought I'd never do I'm actually quite good at and have been complimented many times on technique/sensuality/massage capabilities etc.

As for how sex is different for us vs. NT's, I think that's going to vary wildly. Some people may be extremely hypersensitive to touch and experience pain or unpleasant sensations, others may be kind of numb to the whole experience. Chances are most of us are more nervous/anxious than our NT counterparts, especially early on in our sex lives.

edit: As for maturity level.. that's normal for AS. We're said to have an emotional maturity level of 2/3rds our chronological age. So, it makes sense that you may not feel ready yet. Do it when you feel into it and ready for it, whether that's a hookup, with a long term partner, or not until marriage is up to you. There's no race to do it before graduation or any such BS. None of those sorts of self imposed milestones have any bearing on reality after high school. Life is a really long time and you have MOST of it ahead of you - there's plenty of time for sex after high school. I fully get the pressure, even if self imposed, to be doing it when peers are.. but really, honestly, it is NOT that big of deal. (even though I felt it was when I was 17, I now know it really wasn't.) Do it when it's right for you.

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