Change and confidence

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How confident are you when faced by change in your life? Are you like me wracked with anxiety, and tending to go into hyper catastrophising mode?

Depends on the change. And depends on if my system has been tailored to absorb the change while still providing for my needs. If the system is able to handle it, so am I usually. It can be awesome and I welcome it. But if there is a hole in the system, some oversight which means the change means some need can't be met I cannot handle it. At all.
I don't catastrophise. I analyze. And if I've lost my proverbial sh!t, I go into circular amnesiac repetitious analyzing and go completely nuts.

not confident.

yes.

changes, such as moving house, changing school, changing class schedule. changing jobs. starting and ending social interactions. cope pretty badly

I get super nervous and hyper about. Because I don't know what is going too happen and it freaks me out.

My anxiety can be striking me anywhere in my body, but my anxiety does not stop me. I am confident even though I am anxious.

yes, most changes get to me in some way ... being slightly late in my morning routine throws me off. not getting to stand in exactly the same place on the train to work winds me up quite badly. all of these changes buzz around in my head, winding me up for days/weeks or even months/years.

i catastrophise over most things, especially social situations ... being very awkward and rather blunt does not help. i tend to spend a lot of time in the "mental pit of despair" or "chasing my mental tail" or trying to work my way out of either/both.

confidence tends to suffer quite badly due to the above plus mentally expecting myself to be perfect at everything all the time ... :/

I hate change, but it leads to what I would call a simmering anxiety... so I can deal with it most of the time.
Catastrophising is more a constant state of being for me... I could go to the Catastrophising Olympics and win a medal.

I'll fight you for the gold then , I do feel like my training regime for Catastrophising far exceeds any Olympic training regime

^ I need a bit of a catch up then. I'm on it!

Same here, and my mind concocts worst case scenarios . It's the feeling of not being in control and metaphorically not knowing where all the safety exits are .

For me, it depends if the change is good or bad. It depends on if I know it will be good too; if I doubt I might worry. Just like everyone else. I don't resist change or think it is like death, unless it means losing a relationship or the usual NT s**t.

It's only since reading about ASD that I realized that a lot of my past behaviour could be because I am resistant to change.

I just thought I was having irrational feelings of anger or anxiety when I couldn't explain why I didn't want to change the status quo.

But WHY are you resistant to change? There's always a why, even with us with ASDs. We're human beings with thoughts and feelings.

I know for me sometimes it's because I sense danger; something bad could happen and I like things the way they are so I am scared of change. I have to remind myself that things could get even better.

I really can't pinpoint the exact reasons why, If I was to guess it's probably based in anxiety and the unknown but I can't be sure.
I've had blazing rows with my GF about moving house , going on holiday , getting married because I couldn't come up with adequate answers as to why I feel I couldn't do these things

Just as long as you know there *is* a reason, because we're human beings with thoughts and feelings. I also had a hard time before explaining myself. I still do sometimes. It was kinda tragic in my circumstance because I couldn't explain why I didn't like being labeled so people kept labeling me.

This is the situation with me and the future move to be near my stepdaughter. If all the logistics and possible pitfalls can be sorted/ironed out it has the potential to be a positive move.

It's all about getting through the initial move and safely settling in.