Why are women so triggered by the friendzone?

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Okay so lets say a guy and a girl are friends. They get to be really close friends. The guy develops feelings for the girl and would like to date her but the girl is only interested in him as a friend. The guy says "I've been friendzoned." Suddenly the guy is being attacked by a horde of angry women. They say the friendzone doesn't exist. They accuse him of being sexist and misogynistic. They say he feels entitled to sex because he's a "nice guy." They ask him where his fedora is. They point out over and over and over how a woman is not obligated to return his feelings. The guy never said or even hinted at any of these things but the women are 100% convinced that they all apply to him and that he deserves every bit of abuse they throw at him.

Why is this such a common thing?

A good question, it's as if it's a pre-programmed reaction.

We did have a gang here who acted this way, like a pack of hyenas.

The "friendzone" does exist.

All I'd do is say "C'est la vie." Can't do anything about being put in the "friendzone."

I don't think it's a misogynist thing, the concept of the "friendzone."

Friendzone is = "non-attractive zone", meaning that there's no way you would be sexually attracted to that person, regardless of the time spent together and closeness.

It's really not about friendship but friendship is its cap, the best what can be achieved.

It's very real.

I mean look at the string of comments on this picture. People like us are obviously in the minority.
https://www.facebook.com/thegeekstrikes ... =3&theater

It's all about how people interpret the meaning of the word.

The people who get upset with the word tend to see it as implying that being a love interest is the default state and by being friendzoned you've been cast aside. I expect to them there is no friendzone but rather a romancezone. To that I'd agree wholeheartedly; I don't consciously consider guys I talk to friendzoned, I simply never see them in a romantic light because I'm straight. Basically if you're unattractive to somebody they're not going to consider you dating material.

I don't understand why some people get so angry with the usage of the word though. Like it's one thing to interpret it by that definition and debate it, but a whole other matter to get enraged by the usage. Think of the perspective of the people who use the word; they considered the person they're pursuing to be dateable, so for that to not be recipricated in their world is being friendzoned.

I'll grant that some men definitely use the word in a very bitter connotation and are quite vocal about it. That sort of thing is definitely a good way to give a word a bad reputation.

The problem is not the idea itself, but the way some people believe that you can manipulate people to avoid ending up there. "Act like a macho dickhead, and you won't end up in the friendzone," has been repeated endlessly. Rather than accepting that people get attracted to each other for all kinds of reasons, a lot of people who rely on that terminology treat sexual relations as a game, and objectify the women as targets.

Objectify means view as an object, and represents an unacceptable way to treat people. It does not mean the same a sexualize, which means to view a person as a potential sexual partner, or even to feel sexual arousal when thinking about them. That's perfectly normal and cool, provided you can keep quiet about it and not annoy people who don't want to hear about it.

So yeah, it's probably going to trigger people. You should avoid using that term to avoid getting lumped in with serious misogynists. As an analogy, no one is going to assume your swastika tattoo indicates your love for Buddhism. Too bad. Don't even bother trying to defend PUAs as not misogynist.

Some people are just too butthurt. If someone doesn't wanna date someone why get butthurt over it o_O?

It can mean you're "unattractive" to a particular woman, or whatever.

It can also mean that a woman truly wants to be your "friend" but is not sexually attracted to you.

Like I said: "C'est la vie."

Because of feminism.

In the vast majority of cases, the term is shorthand for being used, often deliberately by someone who, solely by the virtue of being female, has plausible deniability. The rhetoric of a guy who simply throws a fit over just being "friend" material is not much more than a strawman. These butthurt women are angry that they're being called on their bs, and then you have white knights who defend them with some nonsense about objectification, which is entirely normal behavior on both sides.