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27 Nov 2017, 7:10 pm

Do you prefer to have a conversation with one person or a couple of people? I find it easier to participate in the conversation if it is with one person. If I am interacting with more than one person it can be hard to jump into the conversation sometimes. I find it to be easier for people to get to know me one on one. In a group conversations, there seems always be one or two people that have to dominate the conversation and make it all about them. What are your experiences/observations on group conversations?



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27 Nov 2017, 7:23 pm

It depends, but with one person it's often awkward because I don't know what to say, while with a group of people I often get left out of the conversation. I suppose I prefer a small group, like two or three others, but even that depends on the people and their willingness to include me.



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27 Nov 2017, 7:26 pm

One is so much easier.

Usually with more than one, the others tend to have some sort of internal dynamic that I'm not a party to.

And with more than one - who am I supposed to be talking to? And when is it my turn to speak?

Some "support" numpties wanted to visit me recently as a threesome. I refused.



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27 Nov 2017, 7:31 pm

One on one. And even that can be difficult. Occasionally the small group works out, but not usually. If there is someone that I know, who is familiar enough with me to kind of translate for me it helps. Otherwise I really can't do it.



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27 Nov 2017, 9:02 pm

Generally I prefer small group because I don't really have to carry my end of the conversion.

If it's one person and I'm expected to respond and don't know how, I'm put in an awkward place. If it's a small group, I can just stay silent if I don't know what to say.


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27 Nov 2017, 9:05 pm

I really suck at group conversations, so I definitely prefer one on one. I either end up talking over everyone or not saying a word in group conversations.


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27 Nov 2017, 9:33 pm

I have also experienced awkwardness in one on one conversations with people I don't have much in common with. I don't always feel included in conversations especially when there are domineering people in the group. I have a hard time with the internal dynamics and extensive history that some groups of people have with each other.



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28 Nov 2017, 7:40 am

In all fairness, NT's are extremely competitive with one another and will attempt to snuff out competition amongst themselves. Only the slickest NT's come out on top in these group conversations.



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28 Nov 2017, 7:48 am

Being nonverbal I only participate in textual conversations.

If I'm on chat with one person I do a lot more talking because I have to keep my half of the convo going.

But if I'm in a chatroom with 2 or more people I tend to let them do most of the talking and chime in when I feel like it.



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28 Nov 2017, 7:59 am

Ezra, that works too. I prefer written communication even though I'm verbal.



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28 Nov 2017, 11:58 am

I'm more likely to chime into a group conversation if they are talking about stuff I can relate to. It's hard to converse with people who only talk about their endless vacations and children/grandchildren.



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28 Nov 2017, 12:33 pm

The smaller the group the better, one person even better. Conversation with a group is multitasking :cry:


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28 Nov 2017, 3:37 pm

Ditto on the vacations -leisure class scene.



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28 Nov 2017, 4:37 pm

The more people, the worse I find it.



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28 Nov 2017, 4:41 pm

SplendidSnail wrote:
Generally I prefer small group because I don't really have to carry my end of the conversion.

If it's one person and I'm expected to respond and don't know how, I'm put in an awkward place. If it's a small group, I can just stay silent if I don't know what to say.


This^^^


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28 Nov 2017, 5:08 pm

I tend to speak only when it's one on one, when I have to. In a small group I mostly just let the others talk while I listen. I can only fake conversation for a short period, i'm not great with give and take; mostly because I run out of things to say.


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