Can You Stop Talking????? Please
What, you mean you don't want to listen to endless inane chatter, whilst trying to concentrate?! I have a trio of middle aged ladies who sit behind me at work and seem to regard their job as a chance to socialize; this generally consists of wittering about their families, what was on TV/Facebook last night and, of course, how busy they are. Some NT's just have no focus at all.
I do find most NTs talk mainly about sports and their children, two of my least-favorite topics. I'm with Edna. I look like I'm good at social chit-chat because I ask people questions that I just like to know. For instance, I love knowing everybody's birthday. So, if I establish any sort of relationship with a person, I'll ask their birthday before long. Another thing I loved knowing in college was people's majors. I'm quite good at steering conversations in the direction I enjoy, special interests or otherwise. And I'm one of the "hyperverbal Aspies" Ezra was discussing, and I'll talk anyone's ear off if given the chance. When I'm with another hyperverbal Aspie, you have to fight to gain control of the conversation and get a word in edgewise.
I spend every day of my life around NTs. They talk about shopping, store prices, TV, celebrities, animals, holidays, family, gardening, sleep, ailments, cars, mortgages or rent, alcohol, fears, cooking, news, politics, work, memories...the list goes on and on..when they talk about a wedding they were invited to, and you have to fake an interest in looking at pictures of their expensive suit or dress they bought.
I love finding out things about people I know. It's not that I'm nosy. I just find people interesting, and I feel others know more about things than me, and I just want to be up on it.
Weddings, I've been to a few cousins, and kids could one day be my thing. Sports, I'd pass on the high jump or extreme winter sports, but really, you can describe everyone as everyone and still notice your own past times and special interests building as something that does really matter to you. You'd be surprised who cares.
I like listening to people's stories from time to time, but really, I prefer my own company. Must be an Aspie thing.
I've learnt to vary my adult tastes from experience and time.
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The primary characteristic I've found with NTs is that their mind-numbing chatter is uttlerly pointless and serves only to draw attention to themselves. They usually talk about useless topics like sports and Hollywood actors and their gossip, so really useless information in my mind. Essentially just unintelligent chatter.
So I'm with you HistoryGal, I would much rather talk to another Autistic person about any topic really as it tends to be more logical and thoughtful and well-researched In my mind.
And regardless of what others may think about Aspies in general, I have found that silence every once in a while is quite soothing.
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*** High Functioning Autism - Asperger's Syndrome ***
ADHD, OCD, and PTSD.
Keep calm and stim away.
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